Please Advise

[ConfusedOne]

Sorry.

Being new to this whole experinece and never in a billion years guessing that my life would end up here, I'm obviously not familair with RM and therefore thank you for your comments/input/support and respect them coming from someone that clearly does know.

Thanks again.

[Rights Fighter]

Bache and co would probably still do it.

[ConfusedOne]

RF: Thanks

Dear RF

Thank you so very much. I contacted the office of the first solicitor and it turns out that they have a local office in [placename]. I was able to talk to one of the partners and he was a breath of fresh air compared to the solicitor that I had had. In just 10 mins on the phone he has given me hope, the hope that a "real human being" is able to give to another.

Thanks. I will keep you updated.

[Saffron]

Good to hear you sounding more positive, Confused One! Hold on to that feeling.
Keep coming back to let us know how you get on.

[Rights Fighter]

I can't speak for the sol in [placename]. I know that Bache & co pull out all the stops even in publicly funded cases.

[Saffron]

Confused One, I have removed the placename from your and RF's posts. Please remember that, while everyone who posts has to be registered, any member of the public (and the police) can read the posts without having to register. I am not saying this will happen in your case, but the last thing you want is for all and sundry to be able to identify you...

[ConfusedOne]

Bit Confused Again!

Hi RF. I am confused by your last message!

The solicitors that I approached are the firm that you first mentioned:

http://www.richardgriffithsandco.com.../services.aspx

It just so happens that they just dont have an office in Amesbury and Salisbury but also one even closer.

I'm now concerned that I may not have made the best choice best on your more recent posts.

Thanks

[Rights Fighter]

Richard Griffiths had an office in Salisbury town centre when I lived there because I went in and out of it a few times to support various people. I also spoke to a solicitor in Salisbury office who worked from Amesbury. Maybe their offices have closed since I was there? Check their websites

Edit: Just checked and according to the site (your link doesn't work) http://www.richardgriffithsandco.com/content/en/our-offices.aspx they are still where I said they were!


Our Offices


Richard Griffiths & Co solicitors has four offices across Wiltshire and Hampshire.
To contact a specific office, find us on a map or get directions please follow the links below:

• Salisbury Office
• New Milton Office
• Amesbury Office
• Chippenham Office

[ConfusedOne]

Bad News

Hi guys

Sorry that I have not been on here sooner, but I have been reeling from the news of being charged. I am now due to appear in Mag court early Dec for refferal to CC in the New Year. I now face having to tell my friends and mother before then...I realise that my solicitor has told me to focus on being innocent until otherwise and that it's no one's business, but I know how people work!

RF: I am using the solicitor that you mentioned above. Yes indeed they do still have the S & A offices that you mention, but now two others as well, which is great as it makes them a lot closer.

What should I now be doing?

[LS]

Hi Confused
Sorry to hear you've been charged.
What you should be doing from now until the trial is gathering evidence. Write down as much as you can remember about the case. The reason is that in 7-8 months time you'll have forgotten certain details which could be important.
Refer to this thread for past info you've posted.

Any information which comes through about how the alleged victim is doing, ie partying when she should be traumatised, make notes of it.

It'll keep you busy, but don't expect miracles - you'll find it very hard to keep the case out of your mind, but make sure you have someone close who you can talk to.

[Casehardened]

I'm sorry to hear you have been charged and your shock is understandable, but please bear in mind that charging is simply one stage in the process and doesn't mean you're facing a prison sentence.

It's a shot across the bows and it's time to prepare for battle. I'm certain that you're more than capable of preparing a credible defence case and presenting it to your solicitor. I am sure that both solicitor and barrister will really pull all the stops out for you if you are taking a proactive role rather than sitting back and letting everything flow over you.

LS has given some excellent advice in the above post.

As for family and friends, show them your positive side, and if you do have any doubts or worries bring them here where it's all fairly anonymous.

[gareth589]

I'm sorry to hear of your news. No doubt your gutted and feeling at rock bottom.
My advice like others is to keep positive and think this is what my solicitor said. We need your case to be solid as any weak link will be exploited by the other side.

It's very easy to loose track of vital info, like others have said use the site as a kind of diary. Make your solicitor aware your on the forum. My solicitor found the site very helpful.
Don't be ashamed about telling people close to you. Those that change are not worth a second thought. Focus on enjoying life and yes I know when it's looming it's all you can do to want to stay alive.

You seem very intelligent and think you have the ability to be constructive with how you carry yourself.
There will be days when your be thinking what if this. What if that, your doubt and question your morals. Keep your spirits up and moral system. The site is very good in supporting and some of the more experienced team will be there to help.

Fight and fight some more and don't be afraid to come for support.
You may find things hard but keep yourself busy and be around people. Head up high, and remember innocent till proven guilty.

Gareth.

[witsend]

I'm sorry to hear your news, you must be gutted. One question for you..... has your mother not realized that you may have a problem? As mothers we have a built in radar that detects when something is wrong with our children no matter what age they are. Obviously you can only do what you feel comfortable with but please make sure you have someone to talk to. Keep coming back here and we will do our very best to advise and support you. Thinking of you

[0990]

im so sorry to hear that youve been charged , as one of the posts stated its just the next step doesnt mean your going to prison , you need to stay strong ,

[Saffron]

Sorry to hear this news. I haven't got anything to add to the excellent advice above, but wanted to express that my thoughts are with you.