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There don't seem to be many forums or sites for Americans with this type of situation so I thought I might as well post here because we are cousins after all and apparently most of us are going through similar things.
I'm 28 and I was High school teacher at Catholic boarding school for girls sent away by their parents from all over the world. One girl accused me of trying to proposition another girl for sex. The girl denied it, to the nuns in charge of the school and then to the police. I was essentially forced to resign and given no help from the nuns at the school or the school itself. I can't file for unemployment because the school never paid into it. Its been 3 months and I still can't find a job.
In the meantime someone convinced the girl who I supposedly propositioned for sex to change her story. She also added new twists, that i sexually assaulted her. I read the DCF (department of children and families) report and it was enough to make want to shoot myself in the head it was so horrible some of things she said. Apparently it seems that she and her friends had a drug ring going on in the dorm that I found out about and they decided to ruin my life rather than have me get them kicked out of school.
Its been 3 months now and I have had to spend all my money on lawyer. The pain and the anguish this has caused me and my family is unbearable. I was suppose to go on August 10 to appeal my case to DCF in a hearing and finally be able to defend myself against this insanity but my lawyer says I cant until the criminal side of this is done. The DCF in this country has the ability to convict you with a mere preponderance of the evidence and put you on the equivalent of sex offender list that you can never get off of.
Now I just sit here waiting for the police to come and arrest me and I jump every time the dogs bark or the phone rings. In the Catholic church we are all guilty until proven innocent and in the realm of public opinion soon as it gets reported in the media that i was arrested immediately I'm guilty. Who knows, tomorrow I mayfind out this girl has accused me now of raping her.
What a messed up world we live in where people do this to other people. I would rather have been accused of being a bank robber or an arsonist than this. I wish she would have just shot me in the head rather than put me and my family through this.
You Brits are not alone, us Yanks get screwed over by the law and the justice system too and for a teacher it means the end of my career even if I am cleared.
I'm 28 and I was High school teacher at Catholic boarding school for girls sent away by their parents from all over the world. One girl accused me of trying to proposition another girl for sex. The girl denied it, to the nuns in charge of the school and then to the police. I was essentially forced to resign and given no help from the nuns at the school or the school itself. I can't file for unemployment because the school never paid into it. Its been 3 months and I still can't find a job.
In the meantime someone convinced the girl who I supposedly propositioned for sex to change her story. She also added new twists, that i sexually assaulted her. I read the DCF (department of children and families) report and it was enough to make want to shoot myself in the head it was so horrible some of things she said. Apparently it seems that she and her friends had a drug ring going on in the dorm that I found out about and they decided to ruin my life rather than have me get them kicked out of school.
Its been 3 months now and I have had to spend all my money on lawyer. The pain and the anguish this has caused me and my family is unbearable. I was suppose to go on August 10 to appeal my case to DCF in a hearing and finally be able to defend myself against this insanity but my lawyer says I cant until the criminal side of this is done. The DCF in this country has the ability to convict you with a mere preponderance of the evidence and put you on the equivalent of sex offender list that you can never get off of.
Now I just sit here waiting for the police to come and arrest me and I jump every time the dogs bark or the phone rings. In the Catholic church we are all guilty until proven innocent and in the realm of public opinion soon as it gets reported in the media that i was arrested immediately I'm guilty. Who knows, tomorrow I mayfind out this girl has accused me now of raping her.
What a messed up world we live in where people do this to other people. I would rather have been accused of being a bank robber or an arsonist than this. I wish she would have just shot me in the head rather than put me and my family through this.
You Brits are not alone, us Yanks get screwed over by the law and the justice system too and for a teacher it means the end of my career even if I am cleared.
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