Life In Tatters

[gareth589]

That made me laugh for the first time in weeks.

Going to the clubs, I to can remember seeing a High Court Judge, Local MP, Few Police Officers, even remember seeing seeing Two Serving Police Office engaging in Dogging on the moors.

The thing that gives me hope, My Doctor has stated although its not on his medical records, in 2007, I was on Anti Depressants, 45mg Dosage for major depression as I had suffered a motorcycle accident where i was hit head on at 30mph.

I suffered injuries and neck and back and knee problems from hitting the car, My Doctor said the tablets I took would not of made me a raving Rapist, but it would of had the opposite effect, In which i was spaced out and like a zombie.

My mum said I hardly went out and just locked myself away in my room, also my medical reports from seeing the orthopaedic surgeon confirm, I reported to them my loss of sex drive due to it hurting and because of my emotional state, and that the tablets i was taking made it very hard to obtain a erection and if i could manage it, the pain would overtake the joy.

I really don't know what I can do to show the Police that she has made this complaint up, as she was angry for me telling my best mates wife what they were up to.

Instead, my life has taken a real hammering, and those around me have suffered the pain and heartache watching me self destruct, I run my own business, and it has taken me 12 months to build this working flat out, and she has gone and destroyed what little happiness I had.

It makes me think that although I got even by telling the wife, Have i got what i really wanted. Not in a million years, as its true what people say. A woman scourned is a woman burned.

[shocked...]

Hey dude, I'm new to this forum and I am also being accused of rape; albeit under different circumstances. I'm a law graduate and I would like to give you a bit of comfort.

A police officer has to investigate any form of allegation of rape with the utmost caution; or so I have been taught which I am starting to doubt my very own education.

I read through your first post and I must say, given you have all the evidence to prove your story and given your side of the story is consistent, I would be very surprised if this case even got to trial! Even more so, if she does make a formal complaint, she will go down for perverting the course of justice. In the unlikely event trial does occur, the Judge will throw this case out. Why? Because there is no case to answer! This is obviously a case of a "revenge mission" and I'm almost certain the Judge willl see it that way aswell!

I'm sure that both of us will pull through this dark time in both our lives and we will be sharing the good news with everybody on this amazing site in due course!! Keep your head held high and I will do the same.

[0990]

couldnt agree more revenge is main reason for this in my experiance ,The police always seem to believe the “ victim”, you need to stay positive, so many people on here have had their cases nfa ed, theres always a light at the end of the tunnel .

[gareth589]

Thank You for the kind words, I hope that the mess in which your in does sort itself out.

I am still in the gutter, it looks like my ex has told the Police, that I have put her on a Swinging Site against her will, sadly she contacted the site in relation to a problem we had with a single male.

It makes me sick thinking I wonder what lies has she told the Police, and I feel she really believes what she is doing is right. I feel she is not right in the head. I do fully understand the Police have to look into this, but its very hard to accept and deal with when your most private intimate details are coming out to public viewing, I am not ashamed of what I have done, There are many Thousands world wide that do it, and being honest, a friend said, why would I need to rape her, when I had many different girls on the go, if i could not of got sex there i could of got it elsewhere.

My ex is now trying to contact me even though I am on bail through msn leaving messages for me, why would she do this.

Hey dude, I'm new to this forum and I am also being accused of rape; albeit under different circumstances. I'm a law graduate and I would like to give you a bit of comfort.

A police officer has to investigate any form of allegation of rape with the utmost caution; or so I have been taught which I am starting to doubt my very own education.

I read through your first post and I must say, given you have all the evidence to prove your story and given your side of the story is consistent, I would be very surprised if this case even got to trial! Even more so, if she does make a formal complaint, she will go down for perverting the course of justice. In the unlikely event trial does occur, the Judge will throw this case out. Why? Because there is no case to answer! This is obviously a case of a "revenge mission" and I'm almost certain the Judge willl see it that way aswell!

I'm sure that both of us will pull through this dark time in both our lives and we will be sharing the good news with everybody on this amazing site in due course!! Keep your head held high and I will do the same.

[friday]

you can save msn conversations to your computer so make sure you do. you never know if it could be useful to your case. also save them to disk and it may even be possible to save them to the email account (though i have no idea how).

[LS]

He did pm me, and I suggested the same as you, but in order to advise where to look on his pc I asked what OS he was using and he hasn't replied.

[gareth589]

Really sorry, I thought i had replied, Guys and girls, using Mac operating system, have already saved the contents of the chat to disc.

I hope it does help my case.

He did pm me, and I suggested the same as you, but in order to advise where to look on his pc I asked what OS he was using and he hasn't replied.

[LS]

Good, as long as you've got them stored safely.

[gareth589]

I have sat reading other post and am feeling somewhat alarmed at how the CPS and the Police seem to be less interested in making sure is the allegation true and is there the evidence to back up what the allegation is.

It seems that they wholly go on gathering the evidence from the complainant and then charging the accused. It makes me feel sick that people can abuse the legal system, I really feel screwed by what my ex has done and remember the words she so calmly said, I know how to play games and I will totally destroy you and your family for hurting me.

[Rights Fighter]

I hope you saved it as a screenshot rather than copied and pasted.....

[gareth589]

I dont know how to do a screen shot.
what i did was to use my mobile phone and take a picture. i run a mac

[Rights Fighter]

I would think that would be ok. Do NOT hand over your mobile to the police if that's possible and to back it up, send the image to others, including your sol.

Copying and pasting does not actually "prove" what was said because obviously it can be edited. Some people are somewhat surprised when they are told that what they have copied and pasted into a Doc is not reliable evidence!

[LS]

Some people are somewhat surprised when they are told that what they have copied and pasted into a Doc is not reliable evidence!

How true, even an innocent photo can be photoshopped, and a jpeg or bmp picture is no more genuine, however it's a better piece of evidence than nothing.

Gareth, how to do screenshots in Mac operating systems is here: http://guides.macrumors.com/Taking_S...ts_in_Mac_OS_X

For Windows users it is:
Ctrl and PrtScr buttons together
or
Ctrl and C buttons together

THEN
Go into Microsoft paint, as every Windows pc will have it*, and either select File/Edit/Paste, or Ctrl and V buttons together.
Now save it as JPEG, PNG, GIF or BMP. Personally I tend to save it as a JPEG as BMPs seem too easy to manipulate, although as RF rightly says any image can be manipulated so why should anyone class yours as genuine?
In any event you have a dated and timed image which is better than nothing at all.

*(Or whatever aftermarket photo program you have)

[gareth589]

Many Thanks

Will have a look at this.

[Rights Fighter]

You don't need to hold down Control in Windows (not on mine anyway). I just hit Prt Scr and then open a Word doc and paste it into there. Underneath the screenshot I then copy and paste the relevant bits plus the URL/weblink so it's all there in one doc.

It helped in a family court matter I assisted with last year....and the evidence was accepted as fact. I had to write a statement to prove that it was not the respondent "stalking" the complainant!