Life In Tatters

[gareth589]

Hi all.

Quick update.

I answered my bail and was re bailed till 4oct. I have to be fair, The OIC dealt with me in a polite and friendly manner and instantly said I would be re-bailed at the start.

I was interview and gave my account of events, She has no evidence and it is her word against mine, I have at NO POINT ever admitted having Anal Sex with her and said it is on them to prove I have.

My solicitor on the day was very fair and said that the OIC had indicated that he felt this was going to be NFA.

The solicitor was 99.9% Certain this is what is going to happen as the OIC had indicated this to him after interview.

In my hearts I want to believe this, but I still feel that this case is being refereed to the cps for a face to face chat with the OIC, I feel they will still run it.

I am glad to be out and enjoying the last bit of the summer sun, but still that constant fear is always there burning away.

Gareth..

[Rights Fighter]

I have at NO POINT ever admitted having Anal Sex with her and said it is on them to prove I have.

This sounds like somebody has said that you have admitted to this. Who claims that you have admitted this and can you refute it?

[gareth589]

Sorry, just making it very very clear as I know that the Police view threads, I wanted it clear that I have never had anal sex with her or tried to.

[LS]

I think in Gareth's original post, the Other Party made an accusation along those lines.

[gareth589]

Good News

GOOD NEWS

Well it has taken me a great deal of time to finally get my head around things and understand evens that have taken place over the past 5 months.

I would like to bring hope to others that our currently in the place I was. I answered my second lot of bail and the case was NFA.

I broke down in complete tears when the OIC called to say that the CPS had chosen not to continue. The past 5 months have for me and no doubt others been living hell.

I would like to thank all the team that have posted on my thread, for there support and help in what for me has been the most truly soul destroying period in my life and the most blackest.

My advice to those that are currently in the situation I was in, is don't ever give up the value of your life or that of your innocence. Keep a positive outlook on things and don't push those closest to you away like I did. Allow your inner self to be touched and don't be afraid, let others support you and be there for the all important cuddles and hugs. Without this support it becomes a whole lot harder.

Keep detailed accounts in a safe place or better still in a place where a loved one can access it to pass on to your legal side, as the Police can cease this and things go missing.

Try not to look at the worst in the case like i did. When I first was arrested, I thought I would be hung out to the slaughter and because of my past would be found guilty and that the Police would have it in for me.

The OIC who dealt with me treated me in a polite but firm manner and never should me any disrespect regardless of what his own thoughts were. They have a job to do, and please remember this. It is not them that make the decision it is the cps, The Police gather the evidence.

You have to be clever and stand your ground and don't be afraid to do your own fact finding missions, although never be tempted to make contact with the accuser or there friends or family. This will lead you to endless problems.

This site did help me in the early stages although come the end I switched of from the case and worked hard at keeping my business going and building this. My relationship has suffered as a direct result and i regret all the heartache I caused my loved ones. Don't do what I did and try to commit suicide, as it's not worth this, help is always available.

The woman that accused me tried to blackmail while on bail, contacted me through msn, where she openly admitted she had lied to the police about things, was calling me, turning up at my home and then on the day it was dropped, i had about 60 texts and calls from her.

I have had the Police warn her under the harassment act and taken out a civil injunction.

I dont think I will ever fully get over the damage she did to me or my family and it has left me angry but I have learned some lessons that its not always best to get even, its a better man that walks away.
I will always remember the site and will do all i can to help others in the situation, feel free to mail me on the site and I will reply.

The law on this area is very black and needs changing, sadly I don't think this will ever happen, but i will always be more than prepared to stand up and be counted.

Once again to all on the site, Chin Up, be positive and fight for what you believe in.

Regards

Gareth..

[LS]

Well done, Gareth, that's nice news to start the weekend off with.

I agree, lots needs to be changed, but for now you've got your life back and can start to look forward again.
It's been a tough ride for you so take a deep breath, and go and enjoy the weekend and more like it.

[friday]

fantastic news!

just make sure you look after yourself. the aftermath may be equally or even more difficult to deal with than the accusation.

[0990]

well done , im so pleased for you , hope you can move on from this

[largactyl1]

I have been following your story and I am so glad that this is at an end. I really hope you can start to get over everything you have been put through. It is terrible to think that our "Justice" system has been misused in such a way by this woman to beat you over the head with. Very best wishes.
Jen x

[allatsea]

Gareth, so glad to hear your good news. I hope you can now start to move on,

allatsea

[Saffron]

Great new Gareth. I hope you can put this behind you now. Don't expect things to go back to normal straight away - it can take a while. Look after yourself.

[witsend]

Just been reading your latest thread, GREAT NEWS Your words struck a chord with me and was wondering if you would mind me showing our son what you wrote? His life is in absolute tatters after being falsely accused, the panic attacks are chronic and he is now being referred to a physcologist. Goes to show that even when a case is NFA'd the nightmare isn't over. Keep strong

[RFLH]

Brilliant news indeed Gareth - I'm really pleased for you.

[utterlydestroyed]

Good News Gareth...ReallY!

Only just popped by....and really, really delighted to see your news Gareth!

As with regard to Devon & Cornwall Constabulary:

I reiterate, my personal experience of corruption, dishonesty & (in my case homophobic attitudes & practises) of the Devon & Cornwall Constabulary...which the police (professional? Standards unit) refuse to invesigate...and the continued suppression of evidence, documentation & witnesses against the police.

The only personal advance since the police began homophobically working me over is, I recently drove a vehicle on my own for the first time in over two years (although I phoned ahead to let people know I was leaving & how long the short journey would take). I still never leave the house on my own, do not go shopping on my own & NEVER go to town on my own) without a witness escort (pretty difficult when you live in a rural area 5 miles from the nearest town & is quite a strain upon my dear friends).

I still suffer from paralizing panic attacks & vomiting, my GP still declines to treat me & the police continue to protect criminals within their organisation.

We had an incident a few months ago where two Devon & Cornwall police officers tried to force entry to our home....no warrant or accusations! They actually threatened my 77yr old mother with my arrest unless mother allowed them access. These vile police intimidated, not only myself & pensioner mother, but also my mothers tenants, one of whom who moved out the following week as a result. Despite there being four witnesses in total (one of whom was a Devon & Cornwall Constabulary IAG member) & a complaint made to the Devon & Cornwall police, they have refused to investigate & DENIED any police officers called.

This sort of Devon & Cornwall police intimdation, bullying & threatening conduct has been going on since 2004.

Since the police raids & my subsequent attempted suicide as a DIRECT RESULT of Cornwall police dishonesty & corruption. I have at last returned to sculpting,....but just waiting for the Nazi scum of Cornwall police to kick in the front door ...AGAIN!

Cornwall Police, they are the HOMOPHOBIC Hate Crime problem!


...or perhaps ALL UK police forces...
suppress evidence,
commit perjury,
withhold court documentation,
lie about signatures in pocket books,
tell homophobic jokes in public,
attempt to prosecute the corpses of gay suicide victims,
deny police have called,
assist homophobic assailants to leave the scene of an assault,
refuse to investigate reported criminality of police officers,
strip search gay youths,
target gay persons because they have made a complaint,
act on known false allegation,
support homophobic Hate Crimes against gay persons,
display homophobic posters in police station,
verbally abuse & threaten pensioners,
refuse gay persons food & drink whilst in custody for over seven hours,
try to force entry into a home without a warrant,
refuse to take witness statements from gay people
...ALL of the above the dishonest,corrupt hmophobic Cornwall police have done to my FACTUAL KNOWLEDGE, either to me, my mother or my mothers tenants or friends!

DO NOT UNDER ESTIMATE the corruption & dishonesty of todays police officers, as I have 'yet' to meet an honest one!

I was shocked to learn over 1,150 UK residents have DIED (source: Inquest organisation) as a result of police shootings, police RTI's, in police custody or following police contact in the UK since 1993....and not one police officer prosecuted in over 1,000 deaths.

These days when I look at 'any' UK police officer, it is like a Jew looking upon a member of the Nazi SS, I despise, hate & loath UK police & their vile criminality they protect within their own ranks!

[witsend]

empathise

Gareth
Just read you post to landlady. I'm so sorry to hear that you are suffering so much, I can really empathise with you as our son is now in the same situation, his life is in tatters. If you would like to pm me at any time feel free. Thinking of you, chin up.