Help & Advice please

[worriedmother]

I think he has a defence that she was willing in the fact that there were four of them heading off to a party and she invited him back to her house, then invited him to her bedroom. She claims they fell asleep and she woke up in the early morning to my son having sex with her. He has told the police the truth. The got undressed, got into bed,about 2am - she went on the internet on her phone to show him her modelling pictures, so the police might be able to prove the timings. Then they had sex, and she asked to stop part way through -and he did. Its this bit that concerns me. He has admitted to having sex with her and when she asked to stop he did. How does he prove that ? She was consensual by asking him back to her house and bed. The police have asked him what he thought she meant by that and he said he assumed she wanted sex.

After he stopped they then argued about it, he offered to leave but she asked him to stay 'to keep her company' and then he left in the morning about 10am.

What girl who has been woken up to being raped would then ask a man to stay in her house beacuse she was worried about him walking through the area she lived in ?

He could possibly get the cctv on the buses, town centre again to prove he didnt leave til 10am - but will the police do this or do we? can we start asking ?

Sorry I am asking alot of questions. I just feel so helpless
My son is just devastated by all of this. I don't know what to do for him either.
I keep telling him the police and solicitors think he is innocent and he knows he is, so don't worry. Easier to say to someone but I am trying to keep him strong. He is only just over the legal age. I felt so useless when he was taken away and I couldn't go with him.

[worriedfather]

i quite agree that the "justice" system does not work fairly. when my son was arrested i was told that "the focus is on the victim" i pointed out that if she was lying then my son was the victim ...... plod looked very confused !
The balance of evidence is supposed to be "beyond all reasonable doubt" please understand that plod will do everything they can to tilt the balnce in their favour, it does not matter if your son is innocent, they just want a conviction.
we were told when we were supposed to go to trial that the cps intended to use a statement they knew was untrue as it made my son look bad. Plod and the cps only informed us a week before the trial that the "victim" had made a previous false allegation, they then argued in court that it was irrelevant. the judge did see sense and now we go to court at the end of the year.

[worriedfather]

silly question does he have a bus ticket? what about asking the bus company who was on duty that morning ? was your son wearing anything distinctive? like a red jacket or something

[Saffron]

Worriedmother, you must make a note of all these things -her logging on to the internet, the timings, the names and contact details of the other witnesses, etc, and pass them to your sol. Do not expect the police to investigate these things. They will ONLY be looking for evidence that supports the victim's word, not anything that will cast doubt on her truthfulness.

Please get a good sol lined up - one who specialises in defending false allegations of sex crimes. I can't stress how important this is. We relied on the duty solicitor, and boy did it bite us on the backside! A sol will not be able to do much at this stage, but it can be very difficult to switch sols at a later time (especially if you are on public funding - Legal Aid) so get this sorted now.

Best wishes

[Constant]

Log everything down - make sure you know the other couple and they are willing to testify that she asked him to come back.

Try really hard not to get worked up - I am in the same place and these women and men in some cases screw us up badly.

Stay strong - just get the solicitor working for you

[0990]

I had a normal solicitor and never felt they would have started any kind of defence until I had been given a court date, I totally agree, get someone who deals with this on a regular basis. and try to stay positve