My son

[worriedfather]

i understand that rights fighter, it is of immense help to know that others have gone through all this and come out the other side ok. as saffron said its a great place to have a rant. It gets me down sometimes as i feel so depressed at thought that my son may go to prison, but i feel anger too at the injustice of all this. The police could not be bothered to do their job and i want justice. Our lives are on hold until the trial is over, my fiancee and i have put our wedding off, my son missed his brothers welcome home party on his return from afghan and he could not go on a family outing. i want justice

[suzybe]

My husband was also charged very quickly with no medical evidence to support a forced rape. Have you looked at the transcript and video of your sons police interview? we found the police pursued only the lines of questioning that could back up what the woman was claiming. My husband found the whole thing taumatic and confusing and any hint of self doubt on his part they interpreted as a form of guilt. Like your sons case investigations into my husbands version of events were not done until after the charge and anything that backed him up was conveniently left out or not followed through. Make sure your solicitor can involve as many experts as possible to look at all the evidence against your son.

Hi, My ex was arrested 2 weeks ago over a false rape claim, that supposedly took place 4 years ago, i wonder if there is any way we can find out why now? and why at all?this was someone he was meeting just for sex, he accidentally butted up against her anus, but she had sex again half an hour later, then drove him to the train station, and met him briefly twice a week later, what drives women to lie like this? she now claims he anally raped her, he is terrified, on bail till 25/5. SHe was seeing 3 other men for sex too. I know its easy to say "you fool" but too late for that. y ex feels just like your husband, totally helpless.

[Rights Fighter]

Suzybe - possibly she's had some damage done to her anus, gone to get medical assistance and has discovered the magic word "compensation". If she does have an injury then there is some helpful evidence for the Crown to proceed.

[suzybe]

Thank you. Yes you could be right! how low do some people sink!

[Rights Fighter]

I am going by what I read in trial paperwork when helping to appeal convictions. Most cases follow pretty similar patterns.

[suzybe]

Thank you.
There does seem to be a pattern with some cases.
I think even if it does not go to court, women who make false claims should still be charged in some way, that would be impossible perhaps, but they ruin whole families lives, not just the man falsly accused.
Sue

[worriedfather]

well just spoken to the solicitor, the new trial date is the 1st Nov. That will mean that my son will have been away from home for 51 weeks. This was supposed to have been fast tracked but the imcompetents (police and cps) forgot to mention until a week before the original trial date that she had made a false allegation before. i can only say that it gives us more time to refute more of their "evidence". If i did this type of work, i would be out of a job. The stress is starting to get to me and to my son. My thoughts on these muppets are unprintable. I can only wonder how they would feel if this happened to them. Rant over.... for the minute!

[suzybe]

Oh, I am so sorry, unbelieveable, how the police and cps can screw up over and over again, and, as we have found too, how false accusers are easily believed, it really makes my blood boil. I can fully understand you being at the end of your tether, my ex partner is beginning to feel the same, and he is still on bail, has not gone through anywhere near as much as you son. Fingers crossed for you both .
Sue

[RFLH]

That's about average - we waited 15 months.

[suzybe]

15 months? oh no, that must have driven you insane, how awful to have to wait that long. We thought 6 weeks from inital arrest till bailed date was bad enough!

[witsend]

Dear worried Father, not a lot else i can add to what others have said! We were "lucky" that our son's case was nfa'D relatively quickly, but those 12 weeks seemed like an eternity. Our youngest son, also a serving soldier, kept under wraps that his marriage was over whilst we endured that living hell. He felt we had enough to deal with. Very mature attitude to have, but the guilt we felt was awful, all because of this sick woman's behavior and the consequences for us. We are all keeping you in our thoughts.

[suzybe]

Thank you for your thoughts, it is difficult for all of us, even though this is an ex partner, (16 years) he has turned to us for support, I find it hard too, as we were living together but seperately whilst all this was happening with different women, and now the consequences of picking up someone just for sex are showing, let this be a warning to men, women prepared to sleep with men just for sex and no relationship, have no scruples, no morales and no sense of decency ( I guess that doesn't paint the men in a good light either, but they still dont deserve a false rape claim!)

[worriedfather]

Well it still seems a long way off, still got 6 months before we go to court. I feel so angry at the way this has been handled, i noticed in the news the other day that a plod accused of sex offences with a child was on police bail for 6 months before they charged him and then got bail immediately. course he is a plod so wont do anything wrong!
My son has to live away from home and i have seen his accuser around, her life goes on and ours grinds to a halt. and of course when he is found not guilty they wont take any action against her or the plod who made a mess of the investigation. we are all so depressed but of course we are not the victims ! rant over

[goldfish]

I sympathise with you and your family as we are experiencing the same feelings. I worry about the future and how we are supposed to carry on with our lives once this comes to a conclusion, hopefully in our favour. Why did your son have to move away? Was it because his accuser lives close by?

[suzybe]

I was just going to ask the same thing, I expect because he could not take seeing the accuser or maybe even anyone who knows him, if they thought he was guilty, my ex feels the same way, and it is the wait that's definately the worst bit right now, and not knowing what will happen.
Yesterday I went with my ex to the bail hearing, he was a nervous wreck, but after waiting 20 minutes, somebody came out and said the CPS had not come to a decision, so the bail was extended till 10th June. Why could somebody not be bothered to let my ex know ? he did not need to turn up yesterday at all, they are dealing with people's lives and mental state, and just dont seem to care. One thing, I wonder if they cant decide, maybe that's good news, and they dont believe this lying woman, anyway, another few weeks of torture. I have seen my ex destroyed by this, and heading for a nervous breakdown, all because somebody he was having sex with four years ago, suddenly decided to claim she was raped then.