please help.....

[worried parent]

hi , were hoping sombody can please help us .... last week we recieved a phone call from the local police saying thet our 14 yr old son had a serious alllegation reported against him and that they were coming to speak to him . later that day two plain clothes police officers arrived and said a 14 yr old girl had reported that he had sex with her without her concent about 5 weeks ago .
they took him and my wife to the police station to interview him in a tape recorded interview, he admitted having sex with the girl but with her consent , he had to go into graphic detail , explaining stage by stage what happend and in what positions .
after he told his story they told him what she had told them , that he had took her into the bushes , stripped her , held her down and had sex with her , he denied it and said they had both undressed each other and she sat astride him not him on top holding her down ,they also met again the week later and had sex again although she denies this . after the interview they brought him home and said we will hear in about two months from the cps if he will be charged or not .
we have since heard that the girl only cried rape when her mother found out that she had sex with my son , when she questioned her daughter she said he had made her do it . we are at our wits end as to what is going to happen . please can sombody help us .

[worried parent]

just want to add the police officers told us there was no evidence and its just her word against his .at this stage he hasnt been charged with anything but were out of our minds with worry.

[LS]

Hi WorriedParent, I'm sorry to hear about your predicament but glad you've found us. There are many here who have been in the same situation and can give you help and advice.
Your son's age may well go in his favour, and you should try to keep optimistic at this point.
If your son's had any electronic contact with the girl concerned either prior to or after the events, make a copy of them and keep them safe. In the interim there isn't a huge amount of advice I can give, as he hasn't been charged and may well not be, so try to keep calm and if anything further develops then you'll be in a position to know what he is facing.
LS

[Saffron]

Hi Worried parents and welcome.
LS has given good advice - make sure you keep records of any text messages, online chat, etc between your son and the girl. Apart from that and securing a good and experienced solicitor there is not a lot you can do at this stage. Look for a sol who specialises in defending false allegations of sexual assault, a standard criminal sol will not be good enough.
A solicitor will not be able to do very much until your son is charged, *if* he is, but it is important to get one in place as soon as possible.

Don't place too much store on the police saying there is no evidence. Plod will often behave in a friendly manner to those accused in order to win their trust, and hope to gain more information. Plenty of "word against word" cases do continue to charge and trial.

Try to keep your son occupied, and do the same for yourselves. The waiting period of bail is tough, but if you keep busy it will pass.

Keep coming back here. We will all do our best to support you.

Saffron

[worried parent]

this afternoon i spoke to one of the detectives who interviewed my son trying to get some feedback off him , guess what ? they havnt even re interviwed the girl again yet , 5 days of turmoil and anguish and they havnt got round to interviewing her yet .......... is this normal ? or is it a sign that they arent taking it very serious ?

[RFLH]

I daresay the Bank Holiday has played a part in that. Try to keep calm, easier said than done I know, but you need to keep your head clear to be of help.

Keep posting.

[Rights Fighter]

Have they not already interviewed her? Otherwise they would not have been able to question him in relation to her allegations.

If you would like to PM me your whereabouts I might be able to find you a solicitor who specialises in false allegations in your area.

we have since heard that the girl only cried rape when her mother found out that she had sex with my son , when she questioned her daughter she said he had made her do it . we are at our wits end as to what is going to happen . please can sombody help us .

This is important. Where did you hear this and from whom?

[worried parent]

hi aparently the girls mother rang the police and they went to her house , she made the allogation to the police and made a statement , the police then came to see my son and took him into the police station and interviewed him under caution , , they are waiting to interview the girl in the police station where they will video record the interview ? ? they dont seem to be in a hurry but to us every day seems like a week .

[Rights Fighter]

we have since heard that the girl only cried rape when her mother found out that she had sex with my son , when she questioned her daughter she said he had made her do it . we are at our wits end as to what is going to happen . please can sombody help us .

This could be extremely important. How do you know about this?

[worried parent]

a friend of the girl told my son that her mum found out she was had had sex with my son and when she confronted her she said he made her do it .... i dont know if its true or not .

[worried parent]

Forgot to mention that three days before the alleged 'rape' my son broke his wrist and it was put in a cast , so somehow he was able to strip her and hold her down with one hand , im sure a simple grab of his fingers would of made him let go ? The mind boggles .

[LS]

WorriedParent, I don't know if I'm speaking for others, but I'm sorry if it seems no one's replying - it's just that Rights Fighter's seen a bit of info in one of your posts which she thinks is very important so I guess we're all keeping out of the way until she gets a chance to reply.

[Rights Fighter]

If your lad is charged you must get the sol to contact this girl.

[worried parent]

sorry but whats the sol ?

[Saffron]

Sol = solicitor.
If your son had a recently-broken wrist it seems more and more unlikely that he would have been able to physically force this girl into anything. Sit tight and see what happens when the girl is interviewed at the police station. She may yet get cold feet and withdraw her statement (although of course that would get her into more trouble with her mum, so she might not!)
In the meantime, please do get a specialist sol sorted out. There is not a lot that the sol can do until your son is formally charged (if he is charged at all) but it is very important to get one lined up.
Keep posting. If we can help at all, we will.