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Found this forum some 5 months ago, when out of the blue I got a call from a DS at a distant Police Force asking me where i was and if I could come and see them to answer some questions. I have a protracted history of family court contact/custody matter with an ex partner with whom I have two biological and step-children. I suspected it was another absurd complaint from her and so agreed to meet the police at a local station.
I was accused by a Step-daughter who I had brought up for some 10 years of raping her as a child some 8-10 years ago. In this state of shock I was then interviewed by the Police and expected to recall family life from upto 14 years back. With a solicitor present I conducted a full comment interview but in retrospect wasn’t sure if it was a good idea.
The accuser now a confident and intelligent teenager has suddenly remembered she had been raped by myself, abused by another family member and recalled me downloading child porn! I nearly vomited when I heard the charges but was just as angry upon hearing the absurdity of her false allegations. I was bailed time and time again for 3 months believing at some stage the police would see the stupidity of these false claims and her mother and grandmothers involvement in demonising me and my family as I fought for custody/contact for my other children.
Incredibly when I thought the whole nightmare was coming to an end, the police formally charged me with the offences.
Naively I had believed the police we on the side of the truth and would try to work out why the accuser, either coerced or not would make such crazy allegations. This could not be further from the truth. In the months prior to me being questioned and whilst on bail I suspect the police were checking my internet records for paedophilia, as i use various PC’s & notebooks. I am utterly disgusted and repulsed by anything verbal, physical or in anyway harmful to a child whether my own or anyone else’s and hence they would have found nothing.
The OIC had no qualms in pretending to be on my side and blaming the whole facade on the CPS whilst feeding information to the accuser’s mother to gain a stronger witness statement against me. The deviousness of this beggared belief and I have learned the hard way, if you are accused of anything, there is No such thing as a “friendly chat” with the Police. The OIC is just there to gather information against you to gain a conviction hook or by crook. In their eyes the accuser is the Victim and you are just another cog in the machine or a stepping stone towards career progression.
From my personal experience if you are accused of Rape, the Police are solely there to Convict you and Nothing else. Truth and justice are of no consequence to them, it’s just a job. They don’t care about any wider implications, full stop. Even in my case due to my other younger children and other accused members of my family any social and psychological responsibility is just not taken into account by the Police.
I had to run the gauntlet of appearing in court twice under the threat of being reported in the media. My solicitor had already warned me,” mud like this sticks” and could do nothing to stop the press from reporting it. Fortunately at the directions hearing the experienced judge picked up on the absurdity of the accuser’s claims and reserved my case for himself. Amazingly the Prosecutor at court admitted the CPS hadn’t even reviewed my case but had charged me and put me before a Crown Court Judge!
The next few months were torturous, I lost all interest in life, my long-time girlfriend and I split under the strain, my elderly mother became poorly, I became depressed and ill, my finances had gone from good to zilch and I was now in debt.
I often came online to seek some solace from the stories of others but in fact just seemed to keep stumbling upon tales of innocent men incarcerated for years or even life and in the end felt so despondent was making plans to end my life. Now this is not because I had no faith or even the tiniest bit of guilt but because of the type of people I was up against, determined, intelligent and with an agenda. At my lowest ebb, I somehow managed to pull it together a little and gathered some info on my accuser, her credibility and her recent past which filled me with some hope.
During this time the CPS hadn’t even served the prosecution papers to my solicitor but kept extending their deadlines set by the judge. Then as unexpectedly as I had been accused I was informed from the Police the charges had been dropped.
Although my solicitors were expecting me to jump with joy, the whole crappy experience has left me with a bitter hollow taste and totally despondent of the Justice system. Myself, my ex-girlfriend, my family and friends have all become the Victims of an obviously disturbed adolescent girl and her vindictive mother and grandmother, yet the Accuser and her family will still be treated as the wounded party. Simply because she will walk around saying the case was dropped due to lack of evidence and that’s apparently all the CPS have to do, just say its either not in the public interest or there is lack of evidence. The fact that she gave a ridiculous video interview and was coerced as she has done in the past is never revealed by the CPS or if they have found anything else to undermine their case, such as the accuser and her mother making quick successive claims to the Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority. Instead the full brunt of Social Services and Child Protection Officers continue to provide support for a fake victim while me and my family are left to pick up the pieces of our broken lives.
Rape is definitely an abhorrent crime but in cases like ours this must be the most Absurd Justice system in the so called civilized world.
Just to add though, this is a tremendous group and although I sound downhearted anyone else on here who is innocent and falsely accused just remember, no matter how hard it gets keep some faith, there is hope and you will get through it. I eventually did!
Found this forum some 5 months ago, when out of the blue I got a call from a DS at a distant Police Force asking me where i was and if I could come and see them to answer some questions. I have a protracted history of family court contact/custody matter with an ex partner with whom I have two biological and step-children. I suspected it was another absurd complaint from her and so agreed to meet the police at a local station.
I was accused by a Step-daughter who I had brought up for some 10 years of raping her as a child some 8-10 years ago. In this state of shock I was then interviewed by the Police and expected to recall family life from upto 14 years back. With a solicitor present I conducted a full comment interview but in retrospect wasn’t sure if it was a good idea.
The accuser now a confident and intelligent teenager has suddenly remembered she had been raped by myself, abused by another family member and recalled me downloading child porn! I nearly vomited when I heard the charges but was just as angry upon hearing the absurdity of her false allegations. I was bailed time and time again for 3 months believing at some stage the police would see the stupidity of these false claims and her mother and grandmothers involvement in demonising me and my family as I fought for custody/contact for my other children.
Incredibly when I thought the whole nightmare was coming to an end, the police formally charged me with the offences.
Naively I had believed the police we on the side of the truth and would try to work out why the accuser, either coerced or not would make such crazy allegations. This could not be further from the truth. In the months prior to me being questioned and whilst on bail I suspect the police were checking my internet records for paedophilia, as i use various PC’s & notebooks. I am utterly disgusted and repulsed by anything verbal, physical or in anyway harmful to a child whether my own or anyone else’s and hence they would have found nothing.
The OIC had no qualms in pretending to be on my side and blaming the whole facade on the CPS whilst feeding information to the accuser’s mother to gain a stronger witness statement against me. The deviousness of this beggared belief and I have learned the hard way, if you are accused of anything, there is No such thing as a “friendly chat” with the Police. The OIC is just there to gather information against you to gain a conviction hook or by crook. In their eyes the accuser is the Victim and you are just another cog in the machine or a stepping stone towards career progression.
From my personal experience if you are accused of Rape, the Police are solely there to Convict you and Nothing else. Truth and justice are of no consequence to them, it’s just a job. They don’t care about any wider implications, full stop. Even in my case due to my other younger children and other accused members of my family any social and psychological responsibility is just not taken into account by the Police.
I had to run the gauntlet of appearing in court twice under the threat of being reported in the media. My solicitor had already warned me,” mud like this sticks” and could do nothing to stop the press from reporting it. Fortunately at the directions hearing the experienced judge picked up on the absurdity of the accuser’s claims and reserved my case for himself. Amazingly the Prosecutor at court admitted the CPS hadn’t even reviewed my case but had charged me and put me before a Crown Court Judge!
The next few months were torturous, I lost all interest in life, my long-time girlfriend and I split under the strain, my elderly mother became poorly, I became depressed and ill, my finances had gone from good to zilch and I was now in debt.
I often came online to seek some solace from the stories of others but in fact just seemed to keep stumbling upon tales of innocent men incarcerated for years or even life and in the end felt so despondent was making plans to end my life. Now this is not because I had no faith or even the tiniest bit of guilt but because of the type of people I was up against, determined, intelligent and with an agenda. At my lowest ebb, I somehow managed to pull it together a little and gathered some info on my accuser, her credibility and her recent past which filled me with some hope.
During this time the CPS hadn’t even served the prosecution papers to my solicitor but kept extending their deadlines set by the judge. Then as unexpectedly as I had been accused I was informed from the Police the charges had been dropped.
Although my solicitors were expecting me to jump with joy, the whole crappy experience has left me with a bitter hollow taste and totally despondent of the Justice system. Myself, my ex-girlfriend, my family and friends have all become the Victims of an obviously disturbed adolescent girl and her vindictive mother and grandmother, yet the Accuser and her family will still be treated as the wounded party. Simply because she will walk around saying the case was dropped due to lack of evidence and that’s apparently all the CPS have to do, just say its either not in the public interest or there is lack of evidence. The fact that she gave a ridiculous video interview and was coerced as she has done in the past is never revealed by the CPS or if they have found anything else to undermine their case, such as the accuser and her mother making quick successive claims to the Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority. Instead the full brunt of Social Services and Child Protection Officers continue to provide support for a fake victim while me and my family are left to pick up the pieces of our broken lives.
Rape is definitely an abhorrent crime but in cases like ours this must be the most Absurd Justice system in the so called civilized world.
Just to add though, this is a tremendous group and although I sound downhearted anyone else on here who is innocent and falsely accused just remember, no matter how hard it gets keep some faith, there is hope and you will get through it. I eventually did!
thanks, LS.
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