wife of accused

[goldfish]

Great News!

It's all over! Got confirmation from our solicitor today that the case against my husband has been stopped and is not going to proceed to a trial. We are so relieved! This has gone on for 16 months and after a string of hearings the prosecution have had to re investigate and realise that they have been dealing with a manipulative, lying, alcoholic woman who couldn't be put into a witness box.

The Crown are not giving us any explanation though which is making us feel angry. Even our solicitor thinks this is terrible.

We don't know if we should be happy or sad, My husband doesn't feel it's something he can celebrate as it's taken so much out of him and affected our lives so drastically.

For every one else in this nightmare situation don't give up and don't agree to a plea bargain out of fear. Thank God my husband didn't!

[Casehardened]

This has gone on so long for you both and been such a roller coaster.

Well done for sticking it out and I'm so pleased you got the result you deserve.

In the midst of all your problems you still were able to offer support to others in the same predicament, and that is so good.

As you know it may be several months before you can really get back to normal emotionally, (a rule of thumb says it may be as long as the original ordeal of waiting for a decision)

[RFLH]

That is so good to read, it will take quite a while for you to feel 'normal' again, so don't be surprised if your emotions are all over the place, take it day by day.

Thank you for coming back to post - it is greatly appreciated.

[Shatteredhusband]

I am so glad that this nightmare is over for you both.

[Rights Fighter]

Absolutely brilliant news and what a relief. As RFLH says, do not be surprised if you/hubby find your emotions all over the place -in fact expect it so that when it happens you won't feel you are going mad, and it's perfectly normal for the situation you are in.

[0990]

so glad this is all over for you , this seem to have taken so long , hope your husband can put it all behind him and move on ,

[witsend]

his is great news, hope that you will be able to get on with your lives. Keep coming back to let us know how things are going

[brokenman]

Congratulations to you both, can't believe you had to wait so long, but at least you got a good result in the end. If there is any justice your accuser will be punished in some way for what she has put you through. All the best for your future and hope you can now get on with your lives without this hanging over you.

[Verity]

At Last!!!

Thank God for that!

I am so thankful he wasn't put into the dock.

Take time out for yourselves.

[Midnight and Worried]

Hi Goldfish.

Great news for you and your hubby,so glad that your nightmare is finally over.

It took a long time and it must have taken a great toll on you, so glad you can now take a deep breath and smile again.

[Saffron]

Great news, I am so happy for you.
As others have said, it might take a while to get back to "normal". Take it a step at a time, and keep coming back if you need support.

[largactyl1]

I'm very pleased for you that your ordeal is finally at an end and I hope the Accuser is punished for telling lies. When Tony had NFA he had very mixed emotions for a while (and still does but not nearly as much). The happiness felt isn't a carefree happiness but more like the happiness or relief of an animal getting out of a snare - they are free but there are wounds to heal.
Best wishes
Jen x

[anxious]

excellent news!!!

Thats fantastic news, that is justice-I love it!! Must be such a relief for you and the family. Please keep coming back and advising i know that your message to me on my post meant alot - that there are people who care!! Look after you and family now - and you can keep your heads held high. Well its put a smile on my face too

Anxious

[goldfish]

Thank you for all your kind words and support they are greatly appreciated.


We are still in a bit of a daze with the whole thing but your comments have been reasuring for my husband who hasn't been able to understand why he doesn't feel as elated as he thought he would have.

I will continue to post as I have found this site invaluable. Thank you all so much again.

[keri19711keri]

have decided to post after following this forum for a few months and seeing that a recent new member is in a similar situation.
A few months ago my husband of many years was accused of rape by a woman he had been having some sort of affair with. At his first police interview and without a solicitor present he was charged. He thought if he was honest and admitted to having consensual sex it would be sorted out and he would get home. Instead he had to undergo the usual DNA testing, spent a night in the police cells and was up in court the next day. He was allowed out on bail and the next day his name and charge was in the papers.

Needless to say our whole family were devastated. My first reaction was to have nothing to do with him but after a lot of talking and listening to his side of the story as well as knowing the woman involved I decided to stand by him. I have been with him on every visit to his solicitor and recently seen the prosecution statements. It has not been easy, I have experienced every emotion there is.
We are hoping that this does not go to trial but we have been told to be prepared that it will, considering the current political climate.
Does any one have advice on how to prepare yourself emotionally and physically for this?
We also have children who have had to go to work and school knowing that people know about their dad. How do you support your children as well as your husband? The police have also had to become involved with this woman on a couple of occasions with incidents unrelated to my husbands case. Can this have any bearing on my husbands case in relation to her character?

I have taken on board all the information and advice that has been given on this forum but would welcome any more as there are times I feel at a loss, solicitors visits are few and far between and the whole process is so slow.

hi,my partner was convicted on the 14th of Feb this year. The sex was consensual.We have 4 children between us to which i kept it from them. It hit the paper Thus just gone with my address mentioned and a picture of my partner. Its been tough,to say the least. Just hold your head up,and next week it will be someone else in the paper.Tomorrow i will be making my own statement in the paper to mention a few facts that the police failed to say. It may not help but people will know im appealing, and that its never as straight forward as to how its portrayed originally. Your children will suprise you,mine did and im proud of them. Good luck x