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hmm, I see RF's point.
I am at a loss of what to suggest in that case.
I still wouldn;t recommend reporting her to the Garda as I suspect they will simply approach her and ask her to make a statement about the "rape".
And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then made the world round .... and laughed and laughed and laughed ..
your right up until the garda getting involved. there still not involved. The HSE are social workers. they had been involved and did a investigation into me, the accuser "T" and her family including my father. nothing came from that and once i had my interview with them i never heard from them again. If they deemed this something to have been worried about or me someone to be worried about then the garda would had been informed regardless.
Any rumour that had ever been made against me had never gone more the being passed around peers or on a school yard. up until now where its gotten brought to my workplace 7-8 years later.
My workplace is now looking into the whole case where the HSE were involved in and seeing what the outcome of that was before they decide what they have to do with me, because my work is based being a supervisor/leader to youths and working with children.
from the start the rumour was never more then me pulling out my private part in-front of "T" and asking for a hand-job, but yesterday after reading the letter that the friend of hers wrote into the general secretary about me, ive never been so sick n scared in my entire life because she has claimed that she knows people who i have raped and also sexually assaulted and she added she believed both of these to be true.
To fight this i intend on getting a solicitor. but going against the friend of "T" will be easy. its going against "T" herself is what's scaring me because its been almost 8 years, if she hasn't admitted now that its all a lie there's no way shell do it once solicitors are involved. And knowing her shell get people to back her lie's up as-well.
All the rumours have no proof because they never happened. But a girls word accusing is very powerful over the guys word defending himself. Its almost useless.
All these rumours have taken my life from me. taken everything. taken who i am. made me afraid to get close to anyone. made me afraid and lose the overwhelming confidence i had in my work. made me have a feeling where i were over thinking what others were thinking about me. got me run out of the town i grew up in. cost me my education. almost cost me my life. and im only 22.
I know that if this was me I would move and start afresh - you are young enough to do that. However, others might say "you've done nothing wrong so why run away?"
My answer to that is this:
You would not be necessarily running away (due to guilt) but because you are entitled to a life of your own, family and privacy. You can either stick where you are and live in constant fear or move away completely and maybe change your name so you can have a completely fresh start.
I appreciate that finding a similar job would be difficult.
Well today is the day of my bail 3.00pm,
My solicitor phoned this morning to say he had spoken to the police and they said that they hadnt heard from the cps as yet with regards to what action if any was to be taken later today. My sol thinks im going to be re-bailed AGAIN, for the sake of my wife, kids and all involved i hope and pray this isnt the case and that all charges are rightfully dropped and we can awake from this nightmare.
Im sick and tired of it all now its been nearly 5 months of pain and suffering and keeping our lives on hold.
For the 1st time i have butterflies in my stomach, im not worried but aprehensive of whats going to happen today
Well i will let you know soon.
Well today is the day of my bail 3.00pm.
My sol phoned earlier and said he had spoken to the officer in charge and as yet they hadnt heard from the cps.
He thinks im to be re-bailed AGAIN, for the sake of myself, wife, kids and all involved i hope and pray not as its been 5 months now and i really dont think i can take much more of this waiting, it causing so much hurt and pain and all our lives are on hold. i hope to be cleared of all these lies and then we can wake from this vile nightmare that keeps a hold of us.
I will let you know what happens later!
good luck for later - I hope everything goes well for you.
And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then made the world round .... and laughed and laughed and laughed ..
Just got back from police station so as you can guess its either released or re-bailed,
Well its re-bailed AGAIN for the 3rd time
OIC says im being re-bailed until the end of april (another 5 wks) that takes it to 6 months approx now since day of arrest and 3 times bailed. he says the reason for this is because "the cps is off sick and hasnt reviewed my case or hasnt come up with a conclusion of what to do next".
Im absoloutly fuming.....
Is there nothing else can be done??????
I know I said it before, but at least you haven't been charged. Being rebailed is horrible, but not as awful as being charged. So, not the best news and not the worst.
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