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  • Accused is ruining my life please help.

    Hi

    I am new to this forum so hello all,

    I am in a terrible situation 3 yrs ago when i was 19 i was accused of rape twice in that one year first being in july and second being in september as you can imagine i wasnt impressed so heres the story.

    In july 2006 i was arrest for rape and false imprisonment and held in custody for 23 hours after a grouling 2 hour questioning and a forensic exam i was released the accusation that was claimed was that i was supposed to have planned for this girl to come to my home and lock her in then force myself upon her apparently she had kicked me with her heal several times in the back of my calves and supposed to have scratch me across my chest and back in a attempt to get me off.

    Of course during the forensic medical examination there was no scratch marks found on my body and no brusies found either also as for locking the door my door is not one you can lock and remove the key because u dont require a key to lock it from the inside it is a built in key and therefore whilst i was sleeping she could have left or when i was in the shower etc, i did not deny sleeping with her as this is what i did she came over with my girlfriend and me and her where flirting etc witnesses were there who had seen this taking place.

    It wasnt till the next day when i was picked up by the police the taking in, i was kept on bail for 6 months they came out and filmed my door lock they turned my flat upside down fingerprint powder left all over the doors and my bedding was taken and my clothes etc meanwhile whilst on bail i had commited a violent offence in september regarding an ex (please do not leave posts calling me names for my violence i have had help and have been free of violence and have not commited any other crime since febuary last year) i was taken in and questioned then released a week later the same girl had accused me of rape tho i was questioned but not arrested it was left at that, it made sense why she would say it obviously she knew my past knew what i had been accused of and knew how much it upset me and put me under alot of stress and its clear she wanted to punish me to the fullest for my violence but that wasnt taken any further at all.

    So in december when i was released from bail the DC had said to me u were accused again u know how this looks i agreed it looked bad and he also said that we aint taking it no further do to lack of evidence against you then he let me go the only offence since then was feb 08 when my violence struck again and this was to another girlfriend i was arrested and in july imprisoned for this for 4months then when i got out i stopped drinking and got the helkp i needed and since feb no more offences anyway after feb and me and my ex split i met my partner who i am with now and she fell pregnant straight away and then social services got involved knowing they couldnt use the rapes against me because i was not charged the used the violence against me instead but i found out that the M.A.P.P.A was used against me at first i didnt know what this was i was put on this public protection thing after my first violent conviction but i wasnt put on it for violence i was put on it due to the allegations which is wrong as i wasnt charged. so things aint going so good i cant see my son without supervision or without doing a domestic violence course of there choice i am also struggling to get into the marines because of this i need help i do my best for my 7 month lil boy who i love dearly and my girlfirend soon hopefully to be wed but none of this is gonna happen till the social is out of the way and my record is finally cleared of those accusations we are fighting like crazy i went suicidle when my son was first born because i couldnt see him for 2 weeks i only saw the birth i missed everything i am still missing everything my partner is upset i cant be there to support them and we try but so far not so good is there anything i can do to clear this the police say now that the girls were to scared to go to court would it be in my records of the real truth which was lack of eveidence and one wasnt even a formal complaint it was jus a questioning please we just wanna be a family.
    And leave the past behind.

    Thank you

  • #2
    It is good that you have sought help for your violence. Often the hardest part is recognising that we have a problem and admitting that we need help. It is also good that you have stopped drinking - the Demon Drink can turn normal people into monsters.

    I am afraid that I have had no dealing with Social Services, so I can't advise on their procedures. Have you been to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau? they may be able to point you in the right direction. Alternatively, if you can afford it, a solicitor may be able to get these accusations wiped from your record.

    Sorry I can't be of more help.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Saffron View Post
      It is good that you have sought help for your violence. Often the hardest part is recognising that we have a problem and admitting that we need help. It is also good that you have stopped drinking - the Demon Drink can turn normal people into monsters.

      I am afraid that I have had no dealing with Social Services, so I can't advise on their procedures. Have you been to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau? they may be able to point you in the right direction. Alternatively, if you can afford it, a solicitor may be able to get these accusations wiped from your record.

      Sorry I can't be of more help.
      Thank you and yes i have been to CAB no help there and is it possible to have them wiped off what it the procedure for that i already have a solicitor helping me with the socail thanks again

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      • #4
        I find your post really difficult to read as it's seems to be in very long sentences with no punctuation so the meaning is lost (on me).

        Are you saying that you have been found not guilty or that the charges were dropped, against you?

        I work for a solicitor who has had some experience in helping to get records removed from the CRB lists.
        People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

        PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Rights Fighter View Post
          I find your post really difficult to read as it's seems to be in very long sentences with no punctuation so the meaning is lost (on me).

          Are you saying that you have been found not guilty or that the charges were dropped, against you?

          I work for a solicitor who has had some experience in helping to get records removed from the CRB lists.
          Sorry i ain good with punctuation lol erm i was never even charged the cps would not take it to court due to lack of evidence, the second accusation was not a formal complaint i wasnt arrested only questioned.

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