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My name is Scott I am a 43 gay male, I live in Yorkshire and this is my story.
A long time ago when I was 12 I was involved in a minor sexual experience with my younger sister, it was more fondling, a case of a young boy not knowing that it was a wrong thing to do, my sister at the time was 8.
Looking back nowof course I can see that it was wrong but at the time I didn't, I wasnt even fully developed.
Over the years at has been brought up once or twice by my mum, who now totally understands the situation but never by my sister, to me anyway.
Last week my sister and mother and my other sister were on holiday and things turned bad. My sister had been drinking, she has a bad drink history and is also in a very unstable long term relationship, in general things in her life are not good. She has taken drugs before socially, has children to different fathers and other issues. I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of her, I just it to be clear how things are with her.
Whilst on holiday my sister claimed to my mother and sister that I raped her when we were kids, ages as above. As you can imagine it really upset my mum and caused a lot of problems. My mother didn't believe it and so my sister sent me a text saying something a long the lines...."...hi scott, sorry to bring this up but something really bad has happened, ive told mum that something happened when we were kids and if you think anything of me you will say you did it....."
I dont have a problem dealing with this issue, its very uncomfortable to talk about it but I don not deny it because it would make it worse......so I sent a message back saying I did, wondering why it had been brought up.
What I didnt know was that I was answering a text to confirm that I had raped her at the age of 12.....she then showed the text to my mum and said....."there if you dont ****ing believe me read that".....this was told to me when they all got back.
When they did get back my mum told me that my sister said I raped her, I was lost for words and felt so betrayed. I love my younger sister and have always been there for her through her troubles, it was a big shock.
I immediately called her and told her that when I got the text there was no mention of rape. I wouldnt of even known what to do at that age, why has she turned this into rape and why after all these years has it suddenly become rape??? and why is she claming that I have ruined her life??? and her problems stem down to this.
On a day to day basis our relationship is good, sometimes I have had text from her at 2.00am asking if I wanna go over for a drink as any brother sister would. She has no problem giving me a kiss or cuddling me, just normal things that happen with brother and sister.
As you can imagine everyday since her claims the word RAPE has been on my mind and I am so confused as to why she has decided it was rape.
Can somebody shed some light on this for me, even if it means I am told that yes you are a rapist for those acts it will at least help me to start to sort it out, which ever direction it means I have to go in.
Scott
A long time ago when I was 12 I was involved in a minor sexual experience with my younger sister, it was more fondling, a case of a young boy not knowing that it was a wrong thing to do, my sister at the time was 8.
Looking back nowof course I can see that it was wrong but at the time I didn't, I wasnt even fully developed.
Over the years at has been brought up once or twice by my mum, who now totally understands the situation but never by my sister, to me anyway.
Last week my sister and mother and my other sister were on holiday and things turned bad. My sister had been drinking, she has a bad drink history and is also in a very unstable long term relationship, in general things in her life are not good. She has taken drugs before socially, has children to different fathers and other issues. I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of her, I just it to be clear how things are with her.
Whilst on holiday my sister claimed to my mother and sister that I raped her when we were kids, ages as above. As you can imagine it really upset my mum and caused a lot of problems. My mother didn't believe it and so my sister sent me a text saying something a long the lines...."...hi scott, sorry to bring this up but something really bad has happened, ive told mum that something happened when we were kids and if you think anything of me you will say you did it....."
I dont have a problem dealing with this issue, its very uncomfortable to talk about it but I don not deny it because it would make it worse......so I sent a message back saying I did, wondering why it had been brought up.
What I didnt know was that I was answering a text to confirm that I had raped her at the age of 12.....she then showed the text to my mum and said....."there if you dont ****ing believe me read that".....this was told to me when they all got back.
When they did get back my mum told me that my sister said I raped her, I was lost for words and felt so betrayed. I love my younger sister and have always been there for her through her troubles, it was a big shock.
I immediately called her and told her that when I got the text there was no mention of rape. I wouldnt of even known what to do at that age, why has she turned this into rape and why after all these years has it suddenly become rape??? and why is she claming that I have ruined her life??? and her problems stem down to this.
On a day to day basis our relationship is good, sometimes I have had text from her at 2.00am asking if I wanna go over for a drink as any brother sister would. She has no problem giving me a kiss or cuddling me, just normal things that happen with brother and sister.
As you can imagine everyday since her claims the word RAPE has been on my mind and I am so confused as to why she has decided it was rape.
Can somebody shed some light on this for me, even if it means I am told that yes you are a rapist for those acts it will at least help me to start to sort it out, which ever direction it means I have to go in.
Scott
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