Hi All,
Just want to thank the moderators and all members for the great service and online support. I just wished that i found this website in 2005 when i was wrongly accussed of rape and indecent assault. I Felt really alone although i had the support from my wife and family and few friends at that time..( guess you get to know who your true friends are!) , just felt lost and like i was a burdening everyone with this massive turmoil and anguish and hell that i was going through and felt i was putting ppl through.
So it started in June and Ended in early Sptember with a phone call from the Police/CPS stating that the case was dropped 1 week before i was due in to court for a trial. went through real grief and hell in my head for three months, only to have the pressure of a bubble pop ( ping) like it didnt exist by just one phone call. Relief and disbelief and utter confusion of emotions, should i cry or laugh or go mad with feelings of killing someone!!.
Put me though so much ****, my kids had to be vetted by the social services to see they havent been abused or molested. felt so low and ashamed, was all cleared after that but the experience to say the least was something you wouldnt wish for anybody to go though with. How much more can i take. wow. i surprised myself. I haven't killed myself!! with grief that is.
Yeah everyone around says don't worry it will be ok. but hang on. someone had the audacity to accuse me and tarnish my reputation and that of my kids and family, to face 10 years in prison! i couldnt smile or eat or S###. How could i take it lightly. Someone playing with my life like this.
Excuse the above please oh reader, i'm here to ask a question and im going into this , remembering what i went through, well. I'm cleared now but i still have the psycological scars and i dont think it will go away. But it did make me stronger and wiser.
SO for all of you who are going through a similar situation. Please don't give up hope and don't let them get one over you by losing your mind and losing hope. This will be over one day and there are many many people just like you going though the same ordeal. Your not alone.
So my Question(s) is this, Ive been looking into jobs that require enhanced CRB checks. Now i understand that this allegation still remains on a report on the databse somewhere. for how long? can i remove it? how? would i need a solictor for this? once removed would there be anyother database holding this allegation since they took my DNA?
Thanks to All and apologies for my long typo.
Adamski
Just want to thank the moderators and all members for the great service and online support. I just wished that i found this website in 2005 when i was wrongly accussed of rape and indecent assault. I Felt really alone although i had the support from my wife and family and few friends at that time..( guess you get to know who your true friends are!) , just felt lost and like i was a burdening everyone with this massive turmoil and anguish and hell that i was going through and felt i was putting ppl through.
So it started in June and Ended in early Sptember with a phone call from the Police/CPS stating that the case was dropped 1 week before i was due in to court for a trial. went through real grief and hell in my head for three months, only to have the pressure of a bubble pop ( ping) like it didnt exist by just one phone call. Relief and disbelief and utter confusion of emotions, should i cry or laugh or go mad with feelings of killing someone!!.
Put me though so much ****, my kids had to be vetted by the social services to see they havent been abused or molested. felt so low and ashamed, was all cleared after that but the experience to say the least was something you wouldnt wish for anybody to go though with. How much more can i take. wow. i surprised myself. I haven't killed myself!! with grief that is.
Yeah everyone around says don't worry it will be ok. but hang on. someone had the audacity to accuse me and tarnish my reputation and that of my kids and family, to face 10 years in prison! i couldnt smile or eat or S###. How could i take it lightly. Someone playing with my life like this.
Excuse the above please oh reader, i'm here to ask a question and im going into this , remembering what i went through, well. I'm cleared now but i still have the psycological scars and i dont think it will go away. But it did make me stronger and wiser.
SO for all of you who are going through a similar situation. Please don't give up hope and don't let them get one over you by losing your mind and losing hope. This will be over one day and there are many many people just like you going though the same ordeal. Your not alone.
So my Question(s) is this, Ive been looking into jobs that require enhanced CRB checks. Now i understand that this allegation still remains on a report on the databse somewhere. for how long? can i remove it? how? would i need a solictor for this? once removed would there be anyother database holding this allegation since they took my DNA?
Thanks to All and apologies for my long typo.
Adamski
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