Without going into to much detail, I had sex with a girl who I had just met through a friend I work with. She performed oral sex on me twice (before and after intercourse) She spent the night at my house and then the next day she left after I gave her my number and she kissed me.
I then get a call a couple of days later saying that she left my house and told a friend that I had raped her (by force). She apparently was taken to the hospital and given a rape kit, tox screen, etc. I felt sick to my stomach. I immediately was on the phone with a lawyer (im in the US) and he told me not to talk to the police. When the detective called me I informed him of my lawyer so he has been communicating with him.
I am in the dark as to what is going on right now. My lawyer said that the detective told him that they weren't going to make any moves until they get the tox screen back, which should take about a month. They did a tox screen to see what was in here system and she apparently told the police that I gave her a pill (klonopin) which is true, but it was an extremely small amount and she knowingly and willingly snorted it. Also, two other people (my friend from work who knows the girl I slept with and another girl) spent the night at my house. My friend who I work with witnessed her sleeping in my bed with me when he got up to go to the bathroom and told this to the detective. He was right down the hall and told my lawyer that if anything was going on he would have heard it because he was only 20ft down the hall. It has been 38 days since the complaint and tox screen were done and there have been no charges so far.
The detective has asked that I give a DNA sample, but my lawyer told him not without a written search warrent. That was two weeks ago and I haven't heard anything about the warrent. Which meout of me, or they don't have enough to even get a search warrant. Which means one of two things, they were just asking for it to see if they could get anything out of me.
This sick and twisted girl is apparently enjoying all the attention she is getting from people because of this.
My guess is that she felt guilty the next day and decided to make this horrible accusation. Because after we finished, I was talking and she was only giving one word answers and being kind of quiet. So I asked her if she was OK and she said "I don't know, I normally don't hook up with guys I just met." Which isn't the case from what I have heard about her. A lot of what I hear about her makes me think she might have borderline personality disorder, but I don't know.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a nice guy and would never do anything like that. This is a situation that I never could evenn imagine myself in. I am trying to go on with my life but sometimes I just wanna lay in bed and cry. I can't eat much and I have nightmares most nights. My parents (especially my mother) are a wreck as well.
I want to feel optimistic that no charges have been brought and its been a while but I just can't. I don't know anything about what this girl said except that it was force, which it clearly wasn't.
I then get a call a couple of days later saying that she left my house and told a friend that I had raped her (by force). She apparently was taken to the hospital and given a rape kit, tox screen, etc. I felt sick to my stomach. I immediately was on the phone with a lawyer (im in the US) and he told me not to talk to the police. When the detective called me I informed him of my lawyer so he has been communicating with him.
I am in the dark as to what is going on right now. My lawyer said that the detective told him that they weren't going to make any moves until they get the tox screen back, which should take about a month. They did a tox screen to see what was in here system and she apparently told the police that I gave her a pill (klonopin) which is true, but it was an extremely small amount and she knowingly and willingly snorted it. Also, two other people (my friend from work who knows the girl I slept with and another girl) spent the night at my house. My friend who I work with witnessed her sleeping in my bed with me when he got up to go to the bathroom and told this to the detective. He was right down the hall and told my lawyer that if anything was going on he would have heard it because he was only 20ft down the hall. It has been 38 days since the complaint and tox screen were done and there have been no charges so far.
The detective has asked that I give a DNA sample, but my lawyer told him not without a written search warrent. That was two weeks ago and I haven't heard anything about the warrent. Which meout of me, or they don't have enough to even get a search warrant. Which means one of two things, they were just asking for it to see if they could get anything out of me.
This sick and twisted girl is apparently enjoying all the attention she is getting from people because of this.
My guess is that she felt guilty the next day and decided to make this horrible accusation. Because after we finished, I was talking and she was only giving one word answers and being kind of quiet. So I asked her if she was OK and she said "I don't know, I normally don't hook up with guys I just met." Which isn't the case from what I have heard about her. A lot of what I hear about her makes me think she might have borderline personality disorder, but I don't know.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a nice guy and would never do anything like that. This is a situation that I never could evenn imagine myself in. I am trying to go on with my life but sometimes I just wanna lay in bed and cry. I can't eat much and I have nightmares most nights. My parents (especially my mother) are a wreck as well.
I want to feel optimistic that no charges have been brought and its been a while but I just can't. I don't know anything about what this girl said except that it was force, which it clearly wasn't.
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