(Posted on old forum on Sunday, June 13, 2004)
About two weeks ago I was visited by two male DCs and a female Social Worker.
I was told my younger sister, now 36, has alleged to police I had interfered with her when she was 3 years of age (some 33 years ago). I would have been 8 years old at the time.
(IT GETS WORSE - SEE BELOW)
The Social Worker explained to me that in circumstances where there are children at home, fathers would be required to move out of the family home and agree on supervised contact with his children. I was enraged.
What was unknown to the three visitors at the time is that I am currently a single parent father of a 6 year old daughter who was present at the time.
I immediately telephoned my older daughters, now 24 and 25, who spoke to the police on the telephone and also rushed over to my home to offer their support.
My sister lives in Coventry, I live in the South West. We had a falling out about 5 years ago.
The 2 DCs and the Social Worker decided, based on their observations AND because no formal statement had yet been made, that I should continue as I have been doing and that they will contact me if there is further news.
I was advised by the 2 DCs NOT to contact my sister and thereby not to give her any more ammunition (?)
On parting, the Social Worker informed me she would contact my daughter's school and doctor for reports to verify all is okay with her. I agreed as I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.
(THIS IS WHERE IT GETS WORSE)
This weekend, I took a drive up to Coventry to visit another sister of mine who is 1 year older than the first sister mentioned above. Her boyfriend told me she was not home and that I should contact her by telephone. I returned home.
The following day, my first ex-wife telephoned me and said she received a telephone call from the 'second' sister. She told my ex-wife that she had been interviewed by the police concerning the first sister and that she too made accusations of a similar but more serious nature.
She alleged that when she was about 3 years of age, I had sexually interfered with her and that I also interfered with her when she was 15 years of age - at the time I would have been about 22. She then went on to say she was in the process of making a police video taped statement.
My ex-wife immediately telephoned me. I was (am) shocked! Disgusted.
I immediately spoke to my current ex-wife who has staying custody of our daughter most weekends.
We are all shocked. None of the allegations are true.
I fear the worst. I am waiting for the door to knock any time.
(QUESTIONS)
How should I now prepare myself in my defence?
Two sisters is VERY compelling!! Unfortunately, in this country, we are still assumed guilty until proved innocent but TWO sisters!! - I will not pretend to be optimistic therefore, what's the worst case scenario (including any sentencing)?
I have already made plans to protect my current daughter from the clutches of the Social Services by asking my current ex-wife to take over the childcare. This will mean my daughter will have to live permanently with her mother.
What are the views on this?
I have also decided to downsize on possessions fearing the worst - incarceration - which would make my home a target of attack and burglary (I live on a Council estate).
I feel frightened and very vulnerable. I didn't think anything like this could ever happen to me.
But why? Do they hate me that much?
About two weeks ago I was visited by two male DCs and a female Social Worker.
I was told my younger sister, now 36, has alleged to police I had interfered with her when she was 3 years of age (some 33 years ago). I would have been 8 years old at the time.
(IT GETS WORSE - SEE BELOW)
The Social Worker explained to me that in circumstances where there are children at home, fathers would be required to move out of the family home and agree on supervised contact with his children. I was enraged.
What was unknown to the three visitors at the time is that I am currently a single parent father of a 6 year old daughter who was present at the time.
I immediately telephoned my older daughters, now 24 and 25, who spoke to the police on the telephone and also rushed over to my home to offer their support.
My sister lives in Coventry, I live in the South West. We had a falling out about 5 years ago.
The 2 DCs and the Social Worker decided, based on their observations AND because no formal statement had yet been made, that I should continue as I have been doing and that they will contact me if there is further news.
I was advised by the 2 DCs NOT to contact my sister and thereby not to give her any more ammunition (?)
On parting, the Social Worker informed me she would contact my daughter's school and doctor for reports to verify all is okay with her. I agreed as I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.
(THIS IS WHERE IT GETS WORSE)
This weekend, I took a drive up to Coventry to visit another sister of mine who is 1 year older than the first sister mentioned above. Her boyfriend told me she was not home and that I should contact her by telephone. I returned home.
The following day, my first ex-wife telephoned me and said she received a telephone call from the 'second' sister. She told my ex-wife that she had been interviewed by the police concerning the first sister and that she too made accusations of a similar but more serious nature.
She alleged that when she was about 3 years of age, I had sexually interfered with her and that I also interfered with her when she was 15 years of age - at the time I would have been about 22. She then went on to say she was in the process of making a police video taped statement.
My ex-wife immediately telephoned me. I was (am) shocked! Disgusted.
I immediately spoke to my current ex-wife who has staying custody of our daughter most weekends.
We are all shocked. None of the allegations are true.
I fear the worst. I am waiting for the door to knock any time.
(QUESTIONS)
How should I now prepare myself in my defence?
Two sisters is VERY compelling!! Unfortunately, in this country, we are still assumed guilty until proved innocent but TWO sisters!! - I will not pretend to be optimistic therefore, what's the worst case scenario (including any sentencing)?
I have already made plans to protect my current daughter from the clutches of the Social Services by asking my current ex-wife to take over the childcare. This will mean my daughter will have to live permanently with her mother.
What are the views on this?
I have also decided to downsize on possessions fearing the worst - incarceration - which would make my home a target of attack and burglary (I live on a Council estate).
I feel frightened and very vulnerable. I didn't think anything like this could ever happen to me.
But why? Do they hate me that much?
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