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o it's 1981 and I was 13, she was a couple of weeks off 13 - she wanted to be my girlfriend and said she's have sex with me if I went out with her. She came over - another friend of ours (male) was in the living room - we went into the bedroom and had sex - wouldn't say anyone's earth moved - my first time - probably hers too - but very consensual. Needless to say i didn't go out with her though we parted on fine terms.
Fast forwards to Sept 2018 - 2 coppers ring my doorbell on a sunday morning and give me a scrap of paper asking me to call DC XXX - I'd just had my Rangey nicked and wondered if it was news - no such luck - apparently this girl has made a FA of rape. Please can we have a chat to get your side she says. I jump on a train to the other end of the country a week later and meet my solicitor outside the police station.
Virtually no details given before I'm questioned. I give my side and the DC then reads a statement from the girl:
"we've gone into the bedroom all is fine, undressed, all fine then at the point i'm putting a condom on she starts creaming - our friend comes in and holds her down (why the heck that would be your fisrst action is beyond me) - i get on top and have sex - no mention of whether he hangs around to watch etc...."
I deny all. The other chap is also interviewed and gives a totally consistent account to mine - I had not told him what was alleged so his shock was real!!
4 months later still waiting for a decision from CPS - made representations to CPS particularly re the irrebuttable presumption of an under 14 year old being incapable of rape and doli incapex.
Hopeful that with zero evidence, a corroborated account from the oher chap and the fact that the most i can be charged with is indecent assault, this will be a NFA.
That said this has devastated my faith in humanity, made me cynical as hell, distrust the police etc. Oddly one positive is that friends who I've told and my wife have been incredibly supportive and actually brought us closer.
Just thought I'd share - scary these things can come back from so long ago - I have no idea of motive - all i can assume is that if i'm charged i'm going to get a call asking for money for "therapy" and this will all go away....
Thoughts from anyone would be appreciated?
Fast forwards to Sept 2018 - 2 coppers ring my doorbell on a sunday morning and give me a scrap of paper asking me to call DC XXX - I'd just had my Rangey nicked and wondered if it was news - no such luck - apparently this girl has made a FA of rape. Please can we have a chat to get your side she says. I jump on a train to the other end of the country a week later and meet my solicitor outside the police station.
Virtually no details given before I'm questioned. I give my side and the DC then reads a statement from the girl:
"we've gone into the bedroom all is fine, undressed, all fine then at the point i'm putting a condom on she starts creaming - our friend comes in and holds her down (why the heck that would be your fisrst action is beyond me) - i get on top and have sex - no mention of whether he hangs around to watch etc...."
I deny all. The other chap is also interviewed and gives a totally consistent account to mine - I had not told him what was alleged so his shock was real!!
4 months later still waiting for a decision from CPS - made representations to CPS particularly re the irrebuttable presumption of an under 14 year old being incapable of rape and doli incapex.
Hopeful that with zero evidence, a corroborated account from the oher chap and the fact that the most i can be charged with is indecent assault, this will be a NFA.
That said this has devastated my faith in humanity, made me cynical as hell, distrust the police etc. Oddly one positive is that friends who I've told and my wife have been incredibly supportive and actually brought us closer.
Just thought I'd share - scary these things can come back from so long ago - I have no idea of motive - all i can assume is that if i'm charged i'm going to get a call asking for money for "therapy" and this will all go away....
Thoughts from anyone would be appreciated?
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