I think the point I was trying to make to the OP in question was that if you're relationship is not a particularly committed one, do you REALLY want to walk this road? And I did acknowledge that I hadn't read the OP's post on a different thread.
Rf- it was more like righteous indignation rather than being upset. I can only offer virtual tea and sympathy to those who find themselves here but you offer endless amounts of sound advice when you really have no obligation to do so
I would like to see all those affected by these issues unite in injustice but more recently it seems that those in the midst of false accusations are showing far more tolerance to those who claim to have been abused. I know so many women and young girls who will never ever disclose crimes against them. I now wonder whether with the low convictions for rape means that a large portion of them are just that- false and in turn that deters those genuinely affected.
My nephew's buddy from school is currently on remand, accused of raping his ex, an allegation he says was brought because he would not resume the relationship. My friends and family now respond to hearing or reading allegations with a shrug and a "Here we go again..........".
The "owner" of FASO asked me months ago whether I would help with the Scottish branch which I think is now defunct due to lack of volunteers. I never got back to her as I didn't feel as though I had any expertise and as a DBS check was required as mine reads like a dodgy script from East Enders I declined. However I think maybe the time has come to take up the offer as she has offered to assist with the basic legal stuff. I just don't feel as though I'm doing enough at the moment. My own campaign if you like is on hold as I am waiting to see whether my OH's lawyer has managed to find new evidence.
As for sympathy and compassion , I couldn't really do my job were I devoid of it. As a nurse on a specialist NHS unit for those suffering severe dementia and challenging behaviour I see the depths of human misery every time I walk through those doors.
As for religion I do have some faith but I would never suggest anyone turn to God in these situations, that is a purely personal choice.
the support and advice on here has been invaluable beyond words- long may we all continue in our battles.
As I have said before, I'm in S. Yorks- if anyone is in meeting distance I would be more than happy to do so. I have met one member and it was a very helpful thing to do. We even managed to have a chuckle about life!
Rf- it was more like righteous indignation rather than being upset. I can only offer virtual tea and sympathy to those who find themselves here but you offer endless amounts of sound advice when you really have no obligation to do so
I would like to see all those affected by these issues unite in injustice but more recently it seems that those in the midst of false accusations are showing far more tolerance to those who claim to have been abused. I know so many women and young girls who will never ever disclose crimes against them. I now wonder whether with the low convictions for rape means that a large portion of them are just that- false and in turn that deters those genuinely affected.
My nephew's buddy from school is currently on remand, accused of raping his ex, an allegation he says was brought because he would not resume the relationship. My friends and family now respond to hearing or reading allegations with a shrug and a "Here we go again..........".
The "owner" of FASO asked me months ago whether I would help with the Scottish branch which I think is now defunct due to lack of volunteers. I never got back to her as I didn't feel as though I had any expertise and as a DBS check was required as mine reads like a dodgy script from East Enders I declined. However I think maybe the time has come to take up the offer as she has offered to assist with the basic legal stuff. I just don't feel as though I'm doing enough at the moment. My own campaign if you like is on hold as I am waiting to see whether my OH's lawyer has managed to find new evidence.
As for sympathy and compassion , I couldn't really do my job were I devoid of it. As a nurse on a specialist NHS unit for those suffering severe dementia and challenging behaviour I see the depths of human misery every time I walk through those doors.
As for religion I do have some faith but I would never suggest anyone turn to God in these situations, that is a purely personal choice.
the support and advice on here has been invaluable beyond words- long may we all continue in our battles.
As I have said before, I'm in S. Yorks- if anyone is in meeting distance I would be more than happy to do so. I have met one member and it was a very helpful thing to do. We even managed to have a chuckle about life!
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