It's probably known amongst those frequent visitors to the forum that I quite often get involved in heated debates and have been the subject of quite venomous outbursts.
i am quite determined in my views, being somewhat long in the tooth now I have little time for pussy-footing.
However there are certain things that are common to every single person who posts here, whether they are victims of false accusations or of sexual abuse.
The only things we know about each other are what we choose to post in public- certainly what anyone knows about my circumstances is all current. I have never posted anything about my past, my teenage years or anything else I have experienced, good or bad. So yes, i get really annoyed by this endless "How could you know about ........." because chances are many of us can relate to situations other than the ones we find ourselves in now.
What are also common themes is the injustice we all feel, our voices never being heard, our side of the story never being sought. We are all having to live with feelings and frustrations that we should not wish upon anybody else.
Yes we should all be offering mutual support but that has to be from a neutral non- judgemental stand point, one where we do not assume anything about what we may or may not have faced in the past.
I have read stories on here and thought "Really......." yet I have been moved to tears by others. Some people make me want to ask the question "How could you be so stupid"? and others just make we want to hug that person.
My lovely dearly departed mum had some brilliant sayings that she often quoted one of which was "Temper your enthusiasm with discretion".
It's a good rule to live by.
Let us all remain strong in fighting our battles, whatever stage in the war we are at. whatever particular war we are in
i am quite determined in my views, being somewhat long in the tooth now I have little time for pussy-footing.
However there are certain things that are common to every single person who posts here, whether they are victims of false accusations or of sexual abuse.
The only things we know about each other are what we choose to post in public- certainly what anyone knows about my circumstances is all current. I have never posted anything about my past, my teenage years or anything else I have experienced, good or bad. So yes, i get really annoyed by this endless "How could you know about ........." because chances are many of us can relate to situations other than the ones we find ourselves in now.
What are also common themes is the injustice we all feel, our voices never being heard, our side of the story never being sought. We are all having to live with feelings and frustrations that we should not wish upon anybody else.
Yes we should all be offering mutual support but that has to be from a neutral non- judgemental stand point, one where we do not assume anything about what we may or may not have faced in the past.
I have read stories on here and thought "Really......." yet I have been moved to tears by others. Some people make me want to ask the question "How could you be so stupid"? and others just make we want to hug that person.
My lovely dearly departed mum had some brilliant sayings that she often quoted one of which was "Temper your enthusiasm with discretion".
It's a good rule to live by.
Let us all remain strong in fighting our battles, whatever stage in the war we are at. whatever particular war we are in
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