Advise please

[scaredgirl]

Hi everyone, i have been logging on and off this forum for last few months and today joined. My partner was arrested 15 months ago on historic allegations by an ex wife , needless to say they are completely false and untrue.When this happened the first few weeks and months were horrible, now we have just put our life on hold and feel in limbo. He has been bailed 7 or 8 times over the last year, with the DC saying the CPS are snowed under, even applogised the last time , next bail date being tomorrow, my partner has phoned to see if its going ahead and had been told yes. I do get myself a little worked up as it approaches each time. I hoped that he would receive a phonecall saying its been NFA`d, Would they do that by phone? i`m now worried that we are going tomorrow and because theres been no nfa his gonna be charged ?? or would they nfa when he attended his bail ?? or am i just getting my knickers in a twist . I just want this nightmare over !!
Thanks in Advance

[Casehardened]

Hi,

Firstly, well done for supporting your partner through this; he may not tell you but this means a lot.

Did he have a duty solicitor when he was first interviewed or has he one now? If so they may be able to get some indication from the OIC as what is to happen tomorrow. Of course if it is a rebail this just puts off the worry till next time

[is there justice?]

Hi SG

This forum is a great help with advice and support. There ought to be a limit on how long someone can be bailed for and they should then be charged or the whole thing should be dropped.

I hope you get NFA tomorrow

[scaredgirl]

Hi Thanks for reply's,
Our original solicitor who was helpful went on maternity leave in Dec, we havent met new one, and she doesnt seem as helpful, partner has been trying to call her this afternoon. apart from the initial voluntary interview when he was arrested, every bail date has been phone by the solicitor anything from a couple of days before or night before. tomorrow is the first time in 15 months we are going in, think thats why im worried.
Part of me thinks if they were gonna NFA they would have done it over the phone, maybe everything crossed it will still be. I need to put in a complaint over the way certain things were handled.
climbing the walls a bit today, 15 months has taken its toll and want closure, worried if he gets charged how we will cope or him, hopefully we wont have to cross that bridge.
Thanks again x

[myhome]

Hi scaredgirl - you have both been on an awful journey and it could be nearly over. Sometimes NFA is given when you go to answer bail; sometimes you could be told there will be a charge and sometimes you can be rebailed - it is impossible to second guess. Hope for the best outcome but prepare for the worst. Hoping all goes well tomorrow - please let us know what happens....

[scaredgirl]

Dont think we are gonna sleep much tonite, been the longest day, No phonecall for rebail first in 15 months, fingers crossed, will update tomorrow x

[scaredgirl]

Update as promised unfortunately not good news partner charged & solicitor didnt even turn up . Both feel totally numb and in shock.
Suppose now after 15 months of limbo, now need to find the strength for a fight.

[Casehardened]

So sorry for you to hear this news but, as you say, once you are over the initial shock you will pull round, get a little bit angry, and start building his defence.

Regarding his solicitor, it didn't matter too much pre-charge, but it is now important that he chooses someone who (a) he has confidence in and (b) has experience in defending false sexual offence allegations; apart from anything else this latter point means they will also know barristers who specialize in this field.

As a starting point for you members have posted up their recommendations from their own experiences in this thread:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...ist-solicitors

[is there justice?]

I'm really sorry to hear he has been charged.

If there is one thing you need to remember it is what CH has just said about finding an experienced solicitor, from bitter experience we know how bad a bad one can be!

Read other threads and get ready to battle it out. Write every little thing down. This forum is always here to support and help wherever possible.

[scaredgirl]

Thankyou for your replys and advice it means alot , still in shock with a whole range of emotions bouncing around. Gonna try and wind down over the weekend and find a kick arse attitude for monday morning !! x

[can it get worse]

Hi Scaredgirl,
So sorry to hear this awful news. Even though we were waiting a long time, it still comes as a severe shock.

It now moves in to a different sort of scenario with unfortunately more waiting. Please expect for CPS to take a long time to provide the 'evidence'. They may well not meet their deadlines that court has given them.

However, you will find out what you are up against and will can get started in trying to find flaws in the complainant and other witness statements.

Keep posting on here - my partner is approaching trial and we are still learning trying to come to terms to the poor processes of this system.

I hope you get through this weekend reasonably successfully - it could be the one of the worst but try to accept that. You will get rubbish periods and others that aren't so rubbish.

Best Wishes

[myhome]

So sorry to hear that your husband has been charged
some members have said that it has been a strange kind of relief at last knowing what's happening instead of just waiting. You will learn what you are now up against and can begin to build a defence to this. screenshot social media; save emails and text messages electronically where plod can't get to them and write down as much as you can possibly remember about the times when and where these allegations are supposed to have happened. As the others have said, you HAVE to find a legal team which specialises in FA's .....keep strong - keep on here and we'll help all we can...

[scaredgirl]

Thankyou for your replys , Its been a hard few days, think the weekend we were both just in shock and numb, started to sink in a little this week, angry, upset, whole range of emotions. We have changed our solicitor and been a little proactive , just now not looking forward to magistrates next week, still at least we will hopefully know more info then. Thankyou for your support, i would like to say that i`m so sorry for everyone who is having to go through this. x

[scaredgirl]

Magistrate court over, now crown i assume for 1st hearing week after next, any ideas what too expect

[phoenix2014]

Wishing you all the best of luck,two weeks today our trial starts and I am terrified. x