Hi to all,
my fiance is still on licence and his conviction still affects his and my life everyday, which is why I have sought out this group. I am hoping to touch base with others in this situation.
I will call my fiance "Paul" for this group. I didnt know Paul when he was accused and later convicted of having sex with a 15 year old girl. When I met him he had been out of prison seven months, we met on a "back to work" scheme. He told me straight away what his circumstances are. Unemployed, living in a horrid little flat without even a comfy chair to sit on, he never complained though.
Previously he had a very successful career, his own house. He also comes from a large Catholic family who had stood by him, what a difference this has made.
His story is a sad one. He was giving the girl psychotherapy, at her parents request, he knew the family. He was warned they were "trouble" but didnt heed it. She was being sexually abused by two of her brothers, she told Paul all about it, in confidence, her father was also strange in his behaviour towards her. She exposed herself to Paul on a few occasions, invited him to touch her, he declined. She started keeping a fantasy diary about him, what she later claimed he "did to her". Then left the diary for her mother to find...
When the **** hit the fan several people offered to bear witness - the sessions were in a public building, the other people there had never seen her dishevelled or frightened, she had never asked for help etc. etc. But these witnesses soon faded away when it actually came to defending Paul in court. How would their reputation look if he lost the case?
There were documents the judge could see that the jury were not allowed to see because of client confidentiality (she had been Pauls client). It was her word against his. He got 7 years, served three and is now on licence.
That he has type 2 diabetes and is thus practically impotent was not allowed to be brought up in his defence. So many things were just ignored, like the truth most importantly.
The girl and her family moved away. Many around here did not beleive her story. No-one wanted to know them, too dangerous. As one person put it "a fifteen year old threw herself at him, and he went away for it".
We recently heard that since she moved she has accused two more men of raping / sexually assaulting her. Where will this end? I can only hope and pray that one day her concience will explode and she will admit her lies, or more likely, be exposed as a serial lier. No man is safe from her and her type. Her name should be published with a health warning to all males!
The list of things he cannot do (on his licence) is long. Luckily I dont have children and I am 47, so wouldnt want them now. But it affects our whole life. He is far more forgiving than I am about this, I supppose he has to be. Surviving being in prison with rapists, murderers and so on has really traumatised him. It does get easier as time goes by though.
Anyway, thats our situation. I dont think until you meet someone who has gone through this that one can really appreciate how completely devastating it is.
All best wishes to everyone on this group.
cloudberry
my fiance is still on licence and his conviction still affects his and my life everyday, which is why I have sought out this group. I am hoping to touch base with others in this situation.
I will call my fiance "Paul" for this group. I didnt know Paul when he was accused and later convicted of having sex with a 15 year old girl. When I met him he had been out of prison seven months, we met on a "back to work" scheme. He told me straight away what his circumstances are. Unemployed, living in a horrid little flat without even a comfy chair to sit on, he never complained though.
Previously he had a very successful career, his own house. He also comes from a large Catholic family who had stood by him, what a difference this has made.
His story is a sad one. He was giving the girl psychotherapy, at her parents request, he knew the family. He was warned they were "trouble" but didnt heed it. She was being sexually abused by two of her brothers, she told Paul all about it, in confidence, her father was also strange in his behaviour towards her. She exposed herself to Paul on a few occasions, invited him to touch her, he declined. She started keeping a fantasy diary about him, what she later claimed he "did to her". Then left the diary for her mother to find...
When the **** hit the fan several people offered to bear witness - the sessions were in a public building, the other people there had never seen her dishevelled or frightened, she had never asked for help etc. etc. But these witnesses soon faded away when it actually came to defending Paul in court. How would their reputation look if he lost the case?
There were documents the judge could see that the jury were not allowed to see because of client confidentiality (she had been Pauls client). It was her word against his. He got 7 years, served three and is now on licence.
That he has type 2 diabetes and is thus practically impotent was not allowed to be brought up in his defence. So many things were just ignored, like the truth most importantly.
The girl and her family moved away. Many around here did not beleive her story. No-one wanted to know them, too dangerous. As one person put it "a fifteen year old threw herself at him, and he went away for it".
We recently heard that since she moved she has accused two more men of raping / sexually assaulting her. Where will this end? I can only hope and pray that one day her concience will explode and she will admit her lies, or more likely, be exposed as a serial lier. No man is safe from her and her type. Her name should be published with a health warning to all males!
The list of things he cannot do (on his licence) is long. Luckily I dont have children and I am 47, so wouldnt want them now. But it affects our whole life. He is far more forgiving than I am about this, I supppose he has to be. Surviving being in prison with rapists, murderers and so on has really traumatised him. It does get easier as time goes by though.
Anyway, thats our situation. I dont think until you meet someone who has gone through this that one can really appreciate how completely devastating it is.
All best wishes to everyone on this group.
cloudberry
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