Help me, please!

[val lavender]

Hi Scared

having faced a similar situation my advice would be as follows:

I would not go to the police as yet as you may well trigger off an investigation simply because you have reported thr situation to them.

Go and see a solicitor, explain the situation to them and get them to write an afffadavit for you to swear out covering the relevent aspects of what has happened to date. The sooner you do this the better. FASO might well be able to recommend a solicitor in the area in which you live who has some experiance in these matters.

Try not to worry about what she has said and get on with your life, I would certainly explain the situation to your fiance, as if anything does come of this she will know what has happened.

If this woman repeats this threat get your solicitor to write to her and tell her that if she continues to malign your reputation you willl take legal action against her.

If she does continue with this line of behavior, you might want to consider seeking an injunction againts her via the County Court System. This is reasonably easy to do and would certainly make most people stop and think.

The longer it takes for her to make any report to the police [assumimg she ever does] from the date you get tis matter recorded by a solicitor the better as it raises the question as to why she delayed.

Both the above options run the risk of "aggrevating" this woman, but you have to consider the fact that she could suddenly decide to make this allegation for any reason at any time, if the matter is already known by a solicitor or an injunction is in place her actions may be viewed in a diffferent light.

Hopefully the matter will just go away but I think that getting the threat on record with a solicitor is an essential precaution.

Regards

Val

[maria]

dear unhappy you have had some great advice given to you by all on here i would just like to try give a little more, personaly i would tell all your closest friends and family of what she has done because if you do get arrested for this the impact will be so great on your family and friends will be far greater then if they found out while your down the police station news will spread like wild fire and it will then become common knowlegde i wish we had done things differently instead of keeping it ro ourself i always say now fore warned is fore armed this is a risk you will have to concider this way if the police do come your family are there to back you straight away and it wont be as bad a shock as it would have been, also someone that is close enough might talk to her and tell her the impact it will have on everyone and the consquences of her vile accusation could destroy a family, she might then rethink about her cruel intentsions this hopefully will take the strain of you good luck keep intouch with us we are all praying for you x

[val lavender]

Hi all

this situation illustrates the power that such allegations have. All you have to do to screw someone you dont like up is to threaten an allegation.

There is a lot to be said for creating a time limit for reporting rapes, after which the allegation would have to vetted to a higher degree before it was investigated.

The problem with such allegations is that any actionon the part of the accused could trigger the "victim" into making a fraudulant allegation to the police merely to save face in the family group.

Whilst it would seem sensible for a neutral family member to approach this woman and ask her what she thinks she is playing at, such an approach could, in itself, be sufficiant cause for the "matter" to be made more formal. If such an approach is made and she states that she only said it to frighten her victim my feeling is that such people should be reported to the police on the evidence of the neutral party to prevent such allegations being made again.

Too many people now view such allegations as a way of getting revenge on people, and this is without the number of people who regard such situations as a way to make a few grand.

I have recently "trawled" most of the UK police websites and collated the cases of false rape allegations. The reasons for making such allegations include: trying to get an ex-boyfriend back by making him feel sorry for her, an excuse for being out late at at a night club, my boyfriend made me do it [presumably for the money] and other similar reasons.

The sentences imposed on these women are usually in the order of three months but have also, in one notable case, included the issue of an EIGHTY POUND FIXED PENALTY TICKET. This is totally rediculous, sentences in such cases should reflect the gravity of the allegation made against an innocent party and should start at five years.

Regards

Val

[maria]

hear hear i secound that well said i couldn't have put it better myself x

[val lavender]

Hi Maria

could you have a look at the new post/poll I have put up and tell me what you think about the idea of a register along the lines that Judge Bryant suggested.

Regards

Val

[maria]

hi val had a look but can't find it the only one i can find is this one ....Do Compensation Schemes Fuel False Rape Allegations? is this the one you mean? x

[diana_holbourn]

The new one's here: http://www.broadcaster.org.uk/invision_for...p?showtopic=187

[maria]

hi all in our paper dated thursday 17th march, we have one everyday there was a women in it saying she had been raped after all the police and photo's and forensic' reports this girl has now said it didn't happen she was taken back to court for wasting police time and yes you have guessed it she got an ?80.00 fine i'm DISGUSTED anfd yet these people who make false allegations get paid out this is down right DISGUSTING she should be made too pay all the cost of wasting police time and the court cost and be put on a register i really feel like she should have the same sentence as the people who get falsley accused maybe it would stop this sort of thing happening

[Rights Fighter]

Ist March 2005 brought about a successful appeal for Leslie Warren, where his accuser had falsely accused other people. This information had been hidden by CPS - what a surprise!

It was all over the Daily Mail on 2nd March.

RF

[maria]

hi rights fighter shane's accuser had accused before but that wasn't allowed to come out in court we knew of 3 others shane was the forth and there wasn't a dam thing we could do about it we still to this day don't know how many others she has done this to im glad this guy won his case x