Tweet
I am a 57 year old man, married to my lovely Wife for 33 years, and had a very high sex drive, and my Wife and I used to bonk like rabbits for most of this time. But when I was about 49, I Started to lose my sex drive intermitantly, and found I had to fake my climax in order to finish our lovemaking, this went on for a couple of years, until I lost my sex drive entirely, and confided this to my wife who seemed to understand.
I duly went to the Doctor who sent me to several specialists who gave me blood tests, mri scans etc, all to no avail, before I go any further, can I say that I am totally unhappy feeling like this, it is like all of my spirit, and zest for life has gone and I feel like I have no purpose left in life. Lovemaking was such an important part of our lives, it really gave us something to look forward to, and made us feel really warm and loved up afterwards. Anyway, all the doctors did was to give me Viagra, which just gave me an erection, but no libido whatsoever, it was a disaster. Contrary to popular belief, Viagra does nothing at all for sex drive, it only aids erection by increasing blood flow to the genitals.
Can you imagine how I feel when agony aunts etc, commonly tell Wives just like mine to leave their sad Husband, and to seek someone who can give them what they need! I still love my wife as much as ever, although sadly not in a sexual way.
Despite my Wife being seemingly understanding, she pulls away from cuddles and will not even let me hold her hand. I understand that she doesn`t want to be left feeling frustrated, but it almost seems like she is punishing me for my condition, which makes me feel even worse.
I hope that other people will read this, and see the other side of the story, which seems to generally be looked at only from the other partners angle.
Thanks for listening………
I duly went to the Doctor who sent me to several specialists who gave me blood tests, mri scans etc, all to no avail, before I go any further, can I say that I am totally unhappy feeling like this, it is like all of my spirit, and zest for life has gone and I feel like I have no purpose left in life. Lovemaking was such an important part of our lives, it really gave us something to look forward to, and made us feel really warm and loved up afterwards. Anyway, all the doctors did was to give me Viagra, which just gave me an erection, but no libido whatsoever, it was a disaster. Contrary to popular belief, Viagra does nothing at all for sex drive, it only aids erection by increasing blood flow to the genitals.
Can you imagine how I feel when agony aunts etc, commonly tell Wives just like mine to leave their sad Husband, and to seek someone who can give them what they need! I still love my wife as much as ever, although sadly not in a sexual way.
Despite my Wife being seemingly understanding, she pulls away from cuddles and will not even let me hold her hand. I understand that she doesn`t want to be left feeling frustrated, but it almost seems like she is punishing me for my condition, which makes me feel even worse.
I hope that other people will read this, and see the other side of the story, which seems to generally be looked at only from the other partners angle.
Thanks for listening………