All right, im going to try and get all this off my chest. My Wife and I married in May 2012, and we both love each other. We have had our "moments", but in the main love each other. Now im a simple guy, honest and faithfull, possibly a bit dull. I dont watch television much, only football ( soccer), boxing and motorsports, which the last two I have not watched for a long time, as my Wife feels im disrespecting her seeing scantily clad females on the screen. I dont watch porn or masturbate, however I have been accused of having private time and watching porn on multiple occasions in the bathroom, which I am either using the toilet/bath.
This stopped about a month ago after several days heated arguements. I am accused of looking at other women in general as sexual objects. I truely only have eyes for my wife, she is beautiful and had made me happy mostly, apart from me being accused and recently attacked. The main point of argueing has been for a long time, my ex partner( thankfully not married to). My Wife is fixated on her.
I can understand my wife not liking her obviously I dont either, as my Wife( when we were dating), was threatened physically by my ex and her cohorts. I have also had problems with my ex not allowing me to see my children, which is my problem being sorted out legally.
Like I said my Wife has a fixation on my ex, whenever my ex rears up her usual horrible business, I get verbally bashed, and am told by my Wife to go and do sexual things with my ex, and I must love my ex!!!!
I believe my Wife is insecure about her appearance, how ever she really is beautiful. Also some other depression related issues. About a week ago, huge arguements with my Wife as she was unhappy about somestuff my ex wrote on social networking site ( im not on social networks). The comments was not derogatory, although they normally border on nasty and horrible.
A day or two later it was all still bubbling, I said no more and took a stand against the accusations and being what I percieve as being controlled, accused and abused. Well the next thing the television was thrown off the stand, plates smashed, chair thrown and broken. She was extremely violent attacked me , then when I tried restraining her, rang the police to have me arrested...The policeman was very fair, he believed my side of the story as I had an audio copy of what was going on. The police took my Wife to her familys house. I packed up my clothes and have left the house, and am now staying with friends. I left the house with every intention of permanent separation as I have had enough of being accused, and now attacked.
My dilema is now I desperatly miss my Wife, I do love her. I have never been exposed to nor participated in domestic violence. I am now finding myself highly upset being apart from my Wife, to the point where I cannot get her out my mind and having floods of tears. My wife has tried persuading me that it will not happen again, but I do have my doubts that its quite a high chance it will. I love and miss my Wife so much, I just do not know what to do. I would appreciate any feedback from others that have been in similar situations, on feelings and action taken.
There I got it off my chest, and still feel gutted....... :'(
This stopped about a month ago after several days heated arguements. I am accused of looking at other women in general as sexual objects. I truely only have eyes for my wife, she is beautiful and had made me happy mostly, apart from me being accused and recently attacked. The main point of argueing has been for a long time, my ex partner( thankfully not married to). My Wife is fixated on her.
I can understand my wife not liking her obviously I dont either, as my Wife( when we were dating), was threatened physically by my ex and her cohorts. I have also had problems with my ex not allowing me to see my children, which is my problem being sorted out legally.
Like I said my Wife has a fixation on my ex, whenever my ex rears up her usual horrible business, I get verbally bashed, and am told by my Wife to go and do sexual things with my ex, and I must love my ex!!!!
I believe my Wife is insecure about her appearance, how ever she really is beautiful. Also some other depression related issues. About a week ago, huge arguements with my Wife as she was unhappy about somestuff my ex wrote on social networking site ( im not on social networks). The comments was not derogatory, although they normally border on nasty and horrible.
A day or two later it was all still bubbling, I said no more and took a stand against the accusations and being what I percieve as being controlled, accused and abused. Well the next thing the television was thrown off the stand, plates smashed, chair thrown and broken. She was extremely violent attacked me , then when I tried restraining her, rang the police to have me arrested...The policeman was very fair, he believed my side of the story as I had an audio copy of what was going on. The police took my Wife to her familys house. I packed up my clothes and have left the house, and am now staying with friends. I left the house with every intention of permanent separation as I have had enough of being accused, and now attacked.
My dilema is now I desperatly miss my Wife, I do love her. I have never been exposed to nor participated in domestic violence. I am now finding myself highly upset being apart from my Wife, to the point where I cannot get her out my mind and having floods of tears. My wife has tried persuading me that it will not happen again, but I do have my doubts that its quite a high chance it will. I love and miss my Wife so much, I just do not know what to do. I would appreciate any feedback from others that have been in similar situations, on feelings and action taken.
There I got it off my chest, and still feel gutted....... :'(
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