Out of the blue my husband told me that he wanted to leave me and has been having an affair with a woman at his work for 2 months. He's been at the job 4 months. We've been together 15 years, married for 7 and have 2 young children.
I'm devasted. This is completly our of character as he is such a kind caring man who dotes on his children and is a fantastic father. Everyone else is deeply shocked too, nothing like this has happened before.
Over the past couple of years we've had a lot of external pressure. He lost his job, changed career, set up his own business which failed and we lost all our savings and are now in debt. There was a distance between us, times had been very tough. I still thought (mistakenly) that we were fundamently OK.
He left saying he needed time to think, he was confused, completely blamed himself, didn't love me anymore and didn't know if he loved this other woman.
He is staying with a friend, hasn't called me and just came around to get more clothes. I'm so shocked that he's just run away even though I know he
is a terrible conflict avoider and awful at talking about what he's feeling...still I had no idea this was coming
I'm getting lot's of support , thankfully and I'm slowly beginning to understand why this has happened but obviously fear the worst. I do want to reconcile but does he not realise he may lose everything or am I the one who's been living in a fantasy?
How can he throw away our relationship after a 2 month fling?
I'm devasted. This is completly our of character as he is such a kind caring man who dotes on his children and is a fantastic father. Everyone else is deeply shocked too, nothing like this has happened before.
Over the past couple of years we've had a lot of external pressure. He lost his job, changed career, set up his own business which failed and we lost all our savings and are now in debt. There was a distance between us, times had been very tough. I still thought (mistakenly) that we were fundamently OK.
He left saying he needed time to think, he was confused, completely blamed himself, didn't love me anymore and didn't know if he loved this other woman.
He is staying with a friend, hasn't called me and just came around to get more clothes. I'm so shocked that he's just run away even though I know he
is a terrible conflict avoider and awful at talking about what he's feeling...still I had no idea this was coming
I'm getting lot's of support , thankfully and I'm slowly beginning to understand why this has happened but obviously fear the worst. I do want to reconcile but does he not realise he may lose everything or am I the one who's been living in a fantasy?
How can he throw away our relationship after a 2 month fling?
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