Hi all. I have to admit that I am not generally a forum person, but I am truly at my wit's end and need help. My husband has lived with social anxiety and depression for twelve years. We have only been married for five months but have been together for more than two years. The only thing easy about our relationship was the falling in love part... we live on two separate continents currently and have to go through immigration. My husband is my best friend and truly the love of my life. I have gone through depression in the past but was able to come out of it after about one year. My husband however, has never been able to come out of it. He is depressed due to a violent and unpredictable childhood with his father; this is also where the social anxiety stems from.
I do understand depression due to having suffered from it, but I do not understand the social anxiety. He is a wonderful and charming man except he does not see it that way. I try very hard to comprehend what his life is like because of the social anxiety... it's so hard though because I am a naturally outgoing person.
If I had one wish it would be to cure him. I know it's impossible, but I pray every day for God to help him. I see all that is inside of him. He does not.
I want him to see how worth living life is. There are days that the clouds of depression clear and he sees that we can and will have a life together, but there are other days, like today, when he is, "fed up," with everything and cannot see us being together. It kills me.
He is not abusive. He does not blame me, actually. He understands his depression demon all too well. He tells me that I'm the only good thing in his life. He shows his love for me all the time, and tells me he loves me many times daily. He tells me that I do react appropriately to the big D. Today is the first day I've been unable to get him out of bed though and it is scaring me silly.
I just need to know that there are others out there like me. Others who live with this. Others who love their husband or wife with everything they have and have been fortunate enough to marry their best friend, but are constantly picking them up from depression. I hope someone is out there.
Thanks.
I do understand depression due to having suffered from it, but I do not understand the social anxiety. He is a wonderful and charming man except he does not see it that way. I try very hard to comprehend what his life is like because of the social anxiety... it's so hard though because I am a naturally outgoing person.
If I had one wish it would be to cure him. I know it's impossible, but I pray every day for God to help him. I see all that is inside of him. He does not.
I want him to see how worth living life is. There are days that the clouds of depression clear and he sees that we can and will have a life together, but there are other days, like today, when he is, "fed up," with everything and cannot see us being together. It kills me.
He is not abusive. He does not blame me, actually. He understands his depression demon all too well. He tells me that I'm the only good thing in his life. He shows his love for me all the time, and tells me he loves me many times daily. He tells me that I do react appropriately to the big D. Today is the first day I've been unable to get him out of bed though and it is scaring me silly.
I just need to know that there are others out there like me. Others who live with this. Others who love their husband or wife with everything they have and have been fortunate enough to marry their best friend, but are constantly picking them up from depression. I hope someone is out there.
Thanks.
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