Hi
First time on here and hoping some help, experiences can be shared.
I am a new dad (have a beautiful 6 month old son) although am scared about my feelings towards my wife. We married and got on with life and due to her age felt that we better have a child before she is too old. It also felt right at the time.
Now he has come along, I feel unwanted an the relationship in my eyes has become strained. No matter what I do, in her eyes it's not the right way of doing it. He takes up all my wifes time and when I get back from work I just want to wind down although will try and take the stress of him off her by feeding, playing or bathing him. Despite living together, we appear to have drifted miles apart and I am now seeking counselling as my mind is telling me I don't love my wife anymore. She doesn't seem to understand my feelings and says she cannot cope with both me and him (which I understand - I am an adult and can look after myself, he cannot). She told me she was 'fed up' with he way I am but still loves me.
We are trying to get time alone although at the moment but it sometimes feels that we are trying too hard. We have not had a holiday since Oct 2003 and I started a new job soon after he was born. I might just need a holiday but when he is around I don't appear to be relaxed with my wife.
This started on Xmas day when my wife said her feelings had changed. It knocked me for six and since then I have been on a slow decline.
I probably need a kick up the backside although I cannot pull myself out of it a the moment. I'll go to bed in an OK mood although wake up with doubting thoughts.
From looking at other posts I appear to be very lucky although some shared experiences will be appreciated
Thankyou for reading this
First time on here and hoping some help, experiences can be shared.
I am a new dad (have a beautiful 6 month old son) although am scared about my feelings towards my wife. We married and got on with life and due to her age felt that we better have a child before she is too old. It also felt right at the time.
Now he has come along, I feel unwanted an the relationship in my eyes has become strained. No matter what I do, in her eyes it's not the right way of doing it. He takes up all my wifes time and when I get back from work I just want to wind down although will try and take the stress of him off her by feeding, playing or bathing him. Despite living together, we appear to have drifted miles apart and I am now seeking counselling as my mind is telling me I don't love my wife anymore. She doesn't seem to understand my feelings and says she cannot cope with both me and him (which I understand - I am an adult and can look after myself, he cannot). She told me she was 'fed up' with he way I am but still loves me.
We are trying to get time alone although at the moment but it sometimes feels that we are trying too hard. We have not had a holiday since Oct 2003 and I started a new job soon after he was born. I might just need a holiday but when he is around I don't appear to be relaxed with my wife.
This started on Xmas day when my wife said her feelings had changed. It knocked me for six and since then I have been on a slow decline.
I probably need a kick up the backside although I cannot pull myself out of it a the moment. I'll go to bed in an OK mood although wake up with doubting thoughts.
From looking at other posts I appear to be very lucky although some shared experiences will be appreciated
Thankyou for reading this
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