Hi, looking for some kindred spirits really. My boyfriend is a really great guy, came out of the army a couple of years ago and is finding things really hard to cope with. He set up his own business which hasn't done well and he blames himself for this but it's not his fault.
He has two great kids from a previous marriage and I have one. We both love each other very much but he has health problems which has led to depression and what doesn't help is we live 40miles apart and don't get to see each other very often. He is constantly saying that he is nothing special and doesn't communicate regularly since a close friend of his died, and this event has pushed him further down.
I want to be as loving and supportive as I can and I'm reading as much about depression as I can so I don't do or say the wrong thing and make it worse. My friends think I'm mad as he has these issues but I love him and I recognise that he is ill, not defective and I want to help him through it.
Has anyone had similar experiences, especially with ex-army partners? His time in Afghanistan has had a huge effect on him, I'm sure he has PTSD and he is now getting help with counselling which is a really positive step but any advice on how I can help this process succeed would be really appreciated!
He has two great kids from a previous marriage and I have one. We both love each other very much but he has health problems which has led to depression and what doesn't help is we live 40miles apart and don't get to see each other very often. He is constantly saying that he is nothing special and doesn't communicate regularly since a close friend of his died, and this event has pushed him further down.
I want to be as loving and supportive as I can and I'm reading as much about depression as I can so I don't do or say the wrong thing and make it worse. My friends think I'm mad as he has these issues but I love him and I recognise that he is ill, not defective and I want to help him through it.
Has anyone had similar experiences, especially with ex-army partners? His time in Afghanistan has had a huge effect on him, I'm sure he has PTSD and he is now getting help with counselling which is a really positive step but any advice on how I can help this process succeed would be really appreciated!
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