I think the problem is there are so many damaged girls out there who will tell lies and just don't have a conscience. I knew my daughter was like that, sadly she always had been. It's a possibility that her brain hasn't properly developed and the abuse and neglect in her history before she came yo us coupled with information from social services that she may have been sexually abused meant that she was a ticking time bomb in a family setting. That in itself is tough to cope with
However, when what you assume are intelligent justice orientated people in the police and CPS get involved you think surely now they will see the truth. You also think social services will be caring and supportive instead of devoid of compassion and common sense. I held on to the notion of continuous review and worked on my sons case to prove his innocence, truly believing it would be dropped before trial. I am still gobsmacked that it wasn't.
I have never broken the law and you expect that if that is the case you're safe. Daughter could have come after me, but she didn't. However she did say as a family we knew what son was doing to her but we decided to ignore it. I am surprised the CPS didn't charge me with something over that.
In my 50s my beliefs about the police, CPS and Social Services are that they are dangerous. It is painful living with this level of distrust.However I am in a much better place emotionally than I was. The thing that really helped me was writing my feelings down and exercise and a few close friends I have confided in. I do think there needs to be some very specific counselling for victims of false allegations and their families . This should be free and details should be given when the not guilty verdict is made. Maybe if the police, justice service and lying social services had to pay something towards it they would be deterred from their shoddy practices?
Anyway, off to deep breathe and get my heart rate down now. Wishing you all the best in the next part of this journey.
However, when what you assume are intelligent justice orientated people in the police and CPS get involved you think surely now they will see the truth. You also think social services will be caring and supportive instead of devoid of compassion and common sense. I held on to the notion of continuous review and worked on my sons case to prove his innocence, truly believing it would be dropped before trial. I am still gobsmacked that it wasn't.
I have never broken the law and you expect that if that is the case you're safe. Daughter could have come after me, but she didn't. However she did say as a family we knew what son was doing to her but we decided to ignore it. I am surprised the CPS didn't charge me with something over that.
In my 50s my beliefs about the police, CPS and Social Services are that they are dangerous. It is painful living with this level of distrust.However I am in a much better place emotionally than I was. The thing that really helped me was writing my feelings down and exercise and a few close friends I have confided in. I do think there needs to be some very specific counselling for victims of false allegations and their families . This should be free and details should be given when the not guilty verdict is made. Maybe if the police, justice service and lying social services had to pay something towards it they would be deterred from their shoddy practices?
Anyway, off to deep breathe and get my heart rate down now. Wishing you all the best in the next part of this journey.
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