I dont really know where to start, I found this site and I have read all the information, the "what happens" section was word for word!
It started when a friend of mine was chatting to a guy nearby on an IPhone app, lets just say its a social networking app for gay men. The guy wanted to meet and he wanted a third guy, he started texting my friend rather than using the app to chat as this was easier. He did say what he wanted to do, which was be tied, double penitrated etc. My friend picked him up and brought him back to our house (hes a housemate) I was introduced and within a few seconds I realised he was a fantisist, he said lots of stories, like "I have the same sofa in silver, but mine was £8,000 from Harrods" he said "I got cruised by George Michael but I turned him down, cos I dont like hairy" Lots of silly stories, my friend actually said he was like Petuna Gordino, the character played by Julie Walters in Dinner Ladies. It was as though he had to tell stories to make himsel interesting, like attention seeking.
We didnt do the things he wanted, we actually didnt penitrate him at all personally, I tried (it was concensual) but I wasnt arroused enough, he performed oral sex on me, but I didnt on him. We took smoke breaks and he was snorting coke (that he brought) off my coffee table, I think we all realised it wasnt really working and I offered him a lift home, he accepted and I drove him home. The following morning my friend phoned me to say he had recieved 64 texts from the guy during the night, which he didnt hear and didnt have time to reply because he was getting ready to go to work, when he had chance to look at a few o the texts, it would apear they got more and more threatening, like "pervert" etc. My friend said that he was worried, and I said, just ignore him.
Later in the morning, my friend found an app or IPhone to block certain numbers so he blocked the guys number. I personally think that as the guy was texting with no reply during the night that he was getting more and more annoyed at not getting a responce, and eventually went to the police.
I was arrested first and my home/work (same place) and they asked where my friend was, I told them he was at work and concequently they arrested him about 30 mins later, we were both taken seperately to the police custardy suite and put in cells, Neither of us knew the other was there at the time. I spoke to the duty solicitor as did my friend, it was at this point I realised my friend was there too.
The solicitor told me that our stories were identical, and I said that because they are recollections of the truth from our memory and not stories. I then saw a doctor who told me the "Victim" was HIV positive, I asked if that was fact because he told us the previous night that he was in fact "clean" I asked the doctor if he could find out from his gp if he was in fact positive or if it was another story, he said that he couldnt ask or that information, so I said if that guy has put me at risk I need to know, I was sent back to my cell whilst the doctor gathered more information, I later went back to the doctor and he told me he had spoken to his gp and that he was HIV positive, Though his count was below the safe leval. I was offered medication, like a morning after thing for HIV but as I hadnt had full sex with him I didnt think I should need to, he did say that it wouldnt affect my case, but I still declined.
I gave my taped interview under caution and my friend gave his afterwards, we were held the full 24 hours or just under, and during this time the police were searching my home, they even had sniffer dogs in. They took all our pcs, IPads, Phones and my very large porn collection on dvds, I know they wont find anything untoward on the dvds as thats not my thing, nor will they find anything on the pcs. We have been bailed until the new year, but I cant cope with this, its tearing me appart, my partner is fully supporting and knows I and my friend are innocent, but I dont know what to do........I cant concentrate on anything.
I'm a sexually active gay man, I`m 45 and my friend also gay is 48, the so called victim told me he was 32 but in fact is 49
It started when a friend of mine was chatting to a guy nearby on an IPhone app, lets just say its a social networking app for gay men. The guy wanted to meet and he wanted a third guy, he started texting my friend rather than using the app to chat as this was easier. He did say what he wanted to do, which was be tied, double penitrated etc. My friend picked him up and brought him back to our house (hes a housemate) I was introduced and within a few seconds I realised he was a fantisist, he said lots of stories, like "I have the same sofa in silver, but mine was £8,000 from Harrods" he said "I got cruised by George Michael but I turned him down, cos I dont like hairy" Lots of silly stories, my friend actually said he was like Petuna Gordino, the character played by Julie Walters in Dinner Ladies. It was as though he had to tell stories to make himsel interesting, like attention seeking.
We didnt do the things he wanted, we actually didnt penitrate him at all personally, I tried (it was concensual) but I wasnt arroused enough, he performed oral sex on me, but I didnt on him. We took smoke breaks and he was snorting coke (that he brought) off my coffee table, I think we all realised it wasnt really working and I offered him a lift home, he accepted and I drove him home. The following morning my friend phoned me to say he had recieved 64 texts from the guy during the night, which he didnt hear and didnt have time to reply because he was getting ready to go to work, when he had chance to look at a few o the texts, it would apear they got more and more threatening, like "pervert" etc. My friend said that he was worried, and I said, just ignore him.
Later in the morning, my friend found an app or IPhone to block certain numbers so he blocked the guys number. I personally think that as the guy was texting with no reply during the night that he was getting more and more annoyed at not getting a responce, and eventually went to the police.
I was arrested first and my home/work (same place) and they asked where my friend was, I told them he was at work and concequently they arrested him about 30 mins later, we were both taken seperately to the police custardy suite and put in cells, Neither of us knew the other was there at the time. I spoke to the duty solicitor as did my friend, it was at this point I realised my friend was there too.
The solicitor told me that our stories were identical, and I said that because they are recollections of the truth from our memory and not stories. I then saw a doctor who told me the "Victim" was HIV positive, I asked if that was fact because he told us the previous night that he was in fact "clean" I asked the doctor if he could find out from his gp if he was in fact positive or if it was another story, he said that he couldnt ask or that information, so I said if that guy has put me at risk I need to know, I was sent back to my cell whilst the doctor gathered more information, I later went back to the doctor and he told me he had spoken to his gp and that he was HIV positive, Though his count was below the safe leval. I was offered medication, like a morning after thing for HIV but as I hadnt had full sex with him I didnt think I should need to, he did say that it wouldnt affect my case, but I still declined.
I gave my taped interview under caution and my friend gave his afterwards, we were held the full 24 hours or just under, and during this time the police were searching my home, they even had sniffer dogs in. They took all our pcs, IPads, Phones and my very large porn collection on dvds, I know they wont find anything untoward on the dvds as thats not my thing, nor will they find anything on the pcs. We have been bailed until the new year, but I cant cope with this, its tearing me appart, my partner is fully supporting and knows I and my friend are innocent, but I dont know what to do........I cant concentrate on anything.
I'm a sexually active gay man, I`m 45 and my friend also gay is 48, the so called victim told me he was 32 but in fact is 49
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