What are we doing to move on and improve our lives?

[IvorBinWronged]

Hi friday and others.

friday - I agree with your positive approach and outlook. The challenges are mostly within from now on so fill your life with little positive things - they are easy to achieve and easy to deal with if they go wrong. As for visiting friends at Uni - try to avoid falling foul of all that subsidised booze and politely avoid those boozy subsidisers. Good luck.

[friday]

^I will try! Thankfully almost all my friends that are at uni are very sensible and a lot don't drink. Given I am allergic to pop music (particularly the cheesy kind on student nights) I don't think I will have to face a student bar. I have never been to the union at my own uni!

LS- Well that would be something different....

The uni work is not going too well (read: not happening at all) but I am finding making my house a home to be very good for my mental state. I've been putting up furniture (proving I can be independent, even if there are still screws sticking out of the bookcase...), cleaning and cooking. I find cooking and baking very therapeutic, you can see something through from the very beginning to the end in a short space of time, plus you can eat the end product! I'm making comfort foods, things like pie and mash. Tomorrow I am making shepherds pie (vegan of course).

I am also learning to stand up for myself more. I don't have to let anyone in my home, if I feel uncomfortable I can leave wherever I am and I can tell people that I am unhappy. I've never been particularly confident but everything that has happened has made me even less confident. Slowly I am learning to speak up for myself and I think this will be the thing that helps me to move on most.

[RFLH]

You're getting there Friday, baby steps.

Its taken me a lifetime to truly find me, been through a lot of ****e to get where I am now - it takes its own time so you will get there I promise. I'm still practicisng saying no, not very successfully it would appear, I keep ending up with animals to care for!

[mrmodandmisspunk]

I agree

Myself, and my partner are sharing this account. We are waiting for first court appearence on December 13th. We are so scared. We have both quit alcohol and cigarettes and have tried to eat healthily and get back in touch with nature by camping etc. His ex partner has accused him and it has been 8 long months, we have now put an offer in on a house in the countryside so we can leave London and start a fresh. Also to prove to my partner that I believe he is innocent.
Well Done on Keeping so strong. I hope we can. Much Love xxxxx

[Falsley accused by 3]

How I am moving on

My partner has just been wrongly convicted of historic rape and sexual assault we have a very young baby together and he is looking at a 15 year sentence. I am channeling the negative energy into positive action. I want to help others and make a life for my partner to come out to.

- I have to move for mine and my childs safety.
- I am going to do an access course in Law ( for 2 reasons 1 to have a better knowledge of how i can help my partner and 2 to provide a better life for our daughter)
- I hope to play an active role in FASO. Margaret is an absolute god send.

What doesn't break us will make us stronger. The person who falsely accused him has got enough satisfaction from getting him sent down and spending their ill gotten money. I will not give them the satisfaction of breaking me and ruining my daughters life. We will maintain a relationship with each other and no prison bars will keep us apart when he has done his time for something he didn't do.

Keep strong everyone

[Rights Fighter]

FASO: http://www.false-allegations.org.uk/

PAFAA: www.pafaa.org.uk/wordpress